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Monday, March 19, 2007

The Grace of Suffering

This morning I woke up with knots in my stomach, already shaking as I considered the job ahead of me - returning to work after my blessed week off. En route to work I prayed my "emergency novena" (rosary and 9 memorares), and confessed to God that I know I have to do this, I don't know why, I don't have a choice, and I don't want to embrace this cross. So I offered him the agony of wanting to escape my suffering and the reality of my own unworthiness. I asked for help in overcoming my unwilling spirit.

God answered, and although the day was busy, there was a certain grace that seemed to accompany me all day long.

During lunch, I did some studying, reading the course notes on Salvici Doloris, which is the Encyclical I read over the weekend.

For the class I'm taking, we have the choice of one of several options for the paper due in April, and I have chosen the topic on what John Paul II says about the meaning of suffering and how it is redemptive. I have no idea what I'm going to say but I have determined that I need to do ALL the reading before even considering my outline because so far, everything seems to work together. Such is Catholic theology; it is a cohesive whole.

But until my lunch break, I wasn't really understanding the message John Paul II was trying to get across; but then came the revelation.

As I read the course notes, suddenly it hit me; I'm LIVING this encyclical, and somehow, I am seeing my journey reflected his words and in the course notes that give an explanation.

John Paul II, in Salvici Doloris, uses a question/answer dynamic to explain the theology of suffering and redemption. Within this, he describes how a suffering person is driven to ask questions about the reasons for the suffering, the meaning of the suffering; in other words, the suffering soul is going to God for the answers to this pain.

God welcomes these questions, and is of course prepeared to answer them, for He draws very near to suffering souls. Through their suffering, He directs them to Jesus Christ and the cross that redeemed us; he points to the words of Jesus, he who asks us to take up our crosses and follow him. That is to say, the invitation of Jesus to us all to unite the sufferings of this life with his, and it is through this surrender that we find the answers and we come to understand how suffering is salvific.

God does not give simple answers, however, I've found that when we are truly open to those answers, they are simplicity in themselves, for the understanding is not temporal but spiritual, not intellectual, but interior.

Through my work, I have been regular readers will testify to my whining, my angst, and we are all in agreement that I need to get away. But every time I turn around, I find I am penned in with nowhwere to go. I can't just quit; I have to pay for my mortgage. I know that God lead me to the home I now "own" (which of course owns me!), I have to consider my dogs, those lives I have agreed to steward. I have to be responsible; God does not ask us to walk away from obligations - such actions are folly. So I find I am trapped.

While yes, I am seeking a way out, I have been spending far more time in seeking God's will and asking those very questions detailed by John Paul II. Why am I suffering? Why is this so difficult? Why do I have nowhere to go? What is the MEANING of this? And ultimately, my question is narrowed down to, "Is this all there is? What does my life mean? Where does God want me to serve Him?"

I have posted a few times about seeking spiritual direction and my agony over this; my unwillingness to pursue recognition of the need for it. I am a lost soul, I am a suffering soul, and I have come to realize that without God, my life has no meaning.

I cannot go on this way. On Sunday after communion I couldn't seem to pray so I looked up at the crucifix, trying to understand more clearly what Jesus did for us. Suddenly I felt so far away from him, the seperation was almost tangible. I recognized my unworthiness and my own inability to overcome my own sinfulness. I fought hard to hold back the tears, suddenly understanding how far I am from union with God. I became absolutely THIRSTY for this unexplainable union with God; and this, the source of my agony. The seperation from God, the desire and need for union with Him.

So today, as I sat at my desk, staring at my course notes, all of this was running through my mind and I realized that God was using my employment to drive me into asking those questions; the deep questions where the answer will be found if I will only find the courage to go deeper. The answer to all of my questions is found on the Cross, and the only way to understand the Cross is through suffering. The only way to find the answers is to suffer for them, suffer in them, and offer that suffering on behalf of something or someone better. To look for the meaning in that suffering, where God draws near and provides the answers to a soul that is finally listening.

Ultimately, my questions and the answers to them are not about employment, the house, or the stuff I own. It is not about the angst that is my daily life. Rather, it is a spiritual affair, leading down the path to holiness if I should be willing to walk that path. That is not to say that I should be a doormat and not seek another position more in line with my true gifts. Quite the opposite! What I came to realize is that if I am not first seeking God, I will not find the answers, I will not discover my true gifts or my true Vocation UNLESS I am willing to surrender my will to wherever God wants to lead me.

I cannot do this alone.

This weekend I realized that my angst about finding a spiritual director is the same torturous experience I had when I was fighting God about returning to Confession; it was all about fear.

Who is the author of fear?

So I sent a note to a priest I highly respect and whose advice I trust, deciding that this is the first step in submission to God's will; to find someone to hold me accountable and help me stop fighting God so hard. To lead me through this suffering to the answers which will never be found in another job. I would trust him and, if he sees fit, I would trust his recommendation to another. I submit this decision to God alone.

Ironically, I sent the note before I read the encyclical and I think this was key; I first had to overcome my fear and take the first step before God would reveal to me WHY I was taking that step.

I do not know what is going to happen at work or with my potential spiritual direction, but I do know this; this afternoon when I realized the meaning of my suffering, suddenly I was filled with a sense of peace and joy that I could not deny. Somehow, in the midst of my suffering, there is a certain amount of peace and I can only pray that this peace continues as I am truly seeking God's will through this.

Many of you have expressed that you are praying for me. Thank you. Prayers are powerful.


Anonymous said...

Sounds like we are both struggling right now. I will pray for you.

Adoro said...

Struggling is the nature of human life; if we do not struggle, we do not really live.

You are also in my prayers!

Warren said...

A small example of the fruit that your suffering bears:

I've found that praying that 'PRAYER OF SURRENDER' that I found on YOUR blog, the Father Ciszek one, is exactly what I need to pray when I'm feeling exactly how you're feeling right now. If it weren't for your blog, I don't think I would have run across that prayer. It's taped up on the inside of my front door now. It's a beautiful prayer, and I think, it points out in prayer form, many of the things you are understanding in your own Lectio Divina on life, as well as what you see in the Encyclicals.

You are given the privelege of participating in profound and beautiful a mystery here.

You are becoming an encouragement to others. You are sharing from the depths of your heart, and you are connected to all of us out here in the world who are trying in some way to do the same thing as you; to really live our Catholic faith. To the measure that you join your suffering with that of others, especially Christ, you are becoming part of the mystery of the Cross, where death is turned to life, suffering turns to joy, and in which cruelty is defeated by charity, and in which justice is swallowed up in mercy.

My heart fills with song, and the mind boggles at the depth of these redemptive mysteries.

I can't go into details here, but everyone's suffering is connected, intimately, when we voluntarily join our suffering with Christs. There are ways that what you are saying is intimately connected with the experience of so many people I know, and with my own life struggle.


Cathy_of_Alex said...

Angela and Adoro: Will you both pray for me as I am praying for you both? Thanks.

I think I need to read that encyclical by JPII. I don't think I've ever heard of it before.

Anonymous said...

Adoro - I quit my job today.

Cathy_of_Alex said...

Uh-oh, who is that? Is it who I think it could be?

Adoro said...

ultra ~ I love that prayer and I carry it with me everywhere. Glad it's been helpful to you! I've often asked for the intercession of Fr. Ciszek and he has answered!

TN ~ What!? Really, what happened?????

Cathy ~ Of COURSE I'll pray for're always in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

What tremendous insights! And the greatest of them all is, "To lead me through this suffering to the answers which will be never be found in another job." You understand, now, why you are where you are. I also believe, despite your denials, that you are doing a ton of good for the people around you.... so God's going to keep you there as His instrument.


All ye in the combox: I am praying for you as well.

- a Consecrated Religious (aka 'nun') friend of Adoro's. (smk)

Adoro said...

smk! How are you? How's the internet connection?

God bless you! I'm praying for you, too!

Fr. V said...


I was sitting here becoming more and more excited. "She's getting it! She's getting it!" From the first paragraph through the body you moved from knowing about Jesus (very important) to then knowing Him through what you learned! How thrilling to see this trip that you are making - the realizations! God is working tremendously in you right now! Know of more prayers coming!

Adoro said...

Thank you, Father V.! I need LOTS of prayers....really.

God bless you!