The art of falling is...um...an art. Really.
Over the years, I've become quite adept at falling over. In fact, in my high school, I even managed to fall UP every single flight of stairs, no matter how small. And in college, while I was only slightly less klutzy, I managed to slide down the steps from Heffron Hall, on my butt. All the way down. I'm not sure if there were witnesses or not. Most likely, if there were, they were trying to stay on their feet and had no time to worry about whether I was on mine. After all, that time, it was the ice falling from the sky in torrents that was the cause of the lack of footing!
I have learned that skiing has aided me in the art of sudden-attacks-of-sprawling-on-the-ground-without-warning. After all, one of the first lessons you learn as a skier is how to fall. And the learning curve itself causes one to crash every so often, and a good skier learns his or her proper falling side, where the fall can be controlled the best, or, if forced to land on the "bad" side, the skier learns to adapt quickly to the changing conditions.
Lately here in Minnesota, we've had a January thaw, which caused our significant snow to change back into water. While this is a glorious occurrance that has cleared INCHES of ice from the sidewalks, it has left an unfortunate and deadly after-effect.
There are certain areas in driveways, on roadways, and select spots on sidewalks and paved trails, where the water has smoothly frozen over. This is bad enough when it can be seen and avoided, or at least crossed with caution. But when it is covered over with a thin dusting of light snow, well, that's where it becomes deadly.
And that's where the art of falling comes in. You see, you have to understand WHEN to go ahead and fall, versus when to fight gravity in order to remain on your feet. It is a very delicate balance, the proper use of which can actually prevent a serious injury.
Last week as I walked down the driveway on what I thought was a "dry" spot, I found myself sliding, and recognized immediately that the battle was lost before it was begun, so went with it and landed in a kneeling position, still holding my dog's leash.
There was some dignity spared, therefore, because as far as the oncoming car using our cul-de-sac to turn around knew, I was just kneeling to tie my shoe or pet my dog. There was no obvious fall, no matter how suddenly this event had occurred. So you see, that's why this is an art form.
Today, however, was a different type of sudden event. I was, again, walking my dog (because no one in their right mind who did not HAVE to be out on these treacherous paths would be there for any other reason!). All was well, though. I was listening to my music, the dog was happily sniffing the snow banks on either side, and we were moving at a nice clip.
Until I placed my foot down through the deceptive layer of powder...too late to keep my other foot on solid ground. An odd dance commensed as I struggled to keep my feet under me, actually uing the dog's leash as a sort of wobbly anchor. Every so often her propensity to pulling saves me from some disaster. But today, it wasn't so useful. After a comedic interlude much like something one would have seen in Tom & Jerry cartoons, I realized that there was naught to do but go with gravity. And I gave up the fight in order to NOT fall backwards.
I landed on my left side, the impact of which confused the dog such that, although I had let go of the leash upon my collision with the ground, she went nowhere. In fact, she'd even left off her sniffing, which is a big deal for a German Shepherd! Athough she didn't approach me, exactly, she DID stand still and look at me curiosly, ears pricked forward, as though to ask, "What are you doing THERE!?"
Of course, as I carefully got to my feet and turned us around, her own paws were slipping on the ice. But she has the benefit of being able to walk along the edges where there is some purchase on the ground. How cleverly dogs are built, even more so than humans, to adapt to the world we have built up to accomodate us. Unfortunately, our "accomodations" often cause more harm than good even in the most simple circumstances.
So, realizing that there was more hidden ice, but I knew not exactly where, and not caring to repeat the experience lest I do finlly blow my knee out (it's a matter of time, and I'd rather it happen in a dramatic way - like in a downhill race so that there is some glory with the catastrophe), we turned around and went home.
Again, I'm not certain if there were witnesses or not, although the next person along that path will see the evidence of my fall, and hopefully avoid the same problem. God be with anyone who travels that treacherous path through the park.
One day I must summarize the different types of falls, including genus and classification, even in Latin terms for further scientific credibility.
Saturday, January 12, 2008
Friday, January 11, 2008
Justice and Mercy
One of the best movies ever made must be "The Gods Must Be Crazy".Have you ever seen it?
I haven't seen this movie in a couple of years, but even now, sitting in my livingroom, I remember that my Dad introduced my brother and I to it. And I can still hear him laughing. And I'm still laughing, too. But now, there's a new element...theology.
First we meet the little Bushman and his family, and their idyllic life. They have no technology, thus live only according to the law of nature; because there is nothing else to disrupt that. It is the introduction of technology, in the form of an empty coke bottle, that throws their lives into an uproar, and, in theological terms, reveals the reality of original sin. Human nature, being what it is, turns their world nasty in a hurry when there is something to cause division.
So he goes off on a quest to rid his family of the "evil thing" that has brought such strife to their little society.
Next we meet the young woman who is sick of technology and just looking for a little simplicity. She was raised in a sterile concrete world, far from the earthy reality that she is seeking. That leads her to Botswana to become a teacher. You must ask...is that a GOOD idea?
And we meet the Biologist and his buddy, the Mechanic. The biologist, working on his PhD thesis, is quite intelligent and well spoken...until he is in the presence of a lady. And the mechanic...well, he is the trash-talking guy who would be comedy relief, but ends up being an anchor in a world suddenly turned ridiculous.
Have I mentioned that I love this movie? I love how the little Bushman approaches the world with unwavering logic, and suffers as a result of his matter-of-fact perspective. My budding theological mind has suddenly grasped a concept of justice and mercy which has, previous to this, gone unrecognized.
Those of you who have seen this movie will remember the following part: the Bushman, on his great quest to rid himself and his family of the Evil Thing, comes across a herd of goats. He's never seen goats before, but they look tasty enough, so he goes about the process of catching his dinner. It's the most natural thing in the world!
The shepherd boy shouts at him in an untelligible language much like monkeys or squirrels. So the Bushman simply waves, smiles, and tells him he will share the feast with him. After all...he can't eat it all and his way of life would dictate that he share his repast even with those he does not understand. It's all very simple. His is a very generous and hospitable soul, and he knows nothing but humility. I can tell you that, if I was greeted in this manner, even if I didn't understand what he was saying, I'd be drawn into sitting at his fire. The Bushman just exudes such a spirit of welcoming, even in the face of what is considered to be an illegal act; and it is his very innocence that causes the juxtaposition between it and a crime of civilization.
Instead, the shepherd boy is very rude and runs (bikes, actually) away, and gets the police. The Bushman is building a fire when the police arrive with the boy, and since there are more guests, he welcomes them, smiling, not moving. According to the natural law to which he is accustomed, he is doing nothing wrong. So it makes no sense to him when the cop picks up the goat and throws it on top of the truck; the Bushman thinks that the man is very rude and greedy. So he takes the next logical step...and tells them that now he will have to shoot another goat so that he can eat. He sees no conflict with having to hunt again so that he can eat; he's only shocked at the rudeness of what he sees as he guests.
Well, for his logic, he is shot and imprisoned, and can't eat. He's extremely compliant, polite, and docile to what is happening to him. His innocence is so excruciating!
And in the scene where he sat in his cell, staring out the window, I cried to myself, "This isn't justice!"
The bumbling biologist and the trash-talking mechanic (who speaks the bush language, which is a series of clicks), agree. This is not justice. This little guy is going to die in such captivity. It is contrary to his dignity as a human being. He was not created to sit in prison, and really, has committed no crime. Not according to natural law. Not according to his understanding of the world. This is a very law-abiding citizen of the world, if he only knew the rules.
Now enter the theology...that's exactly how God sees us. There are those who are given a great deal, and with that gift comes amazing responsiblity, and understanding, and, unfortunately, tendency to pride. Then we have those who have been given little, but in their smallness and their poverty, they are so wealthy! This is the Bushman and his family. Their simplicity is, in actuality, great wealth!
From the Christian perspective, certainly, the Bushman is a pagan. After all...he is talking about gods and giving an evil thing back to them! Yet, he and his family are living according to a very natural, peaceful law, which does not interject themselves between they and God. There is no contraception. There are no tools. There is no technology, and no need for a president or political system. It is them in their corner of the world, not even knowing that other people exist. In the movie, the Bushman's first meeting with other people makes him think they are gods.
It is the "civilized" world that brings such a man to a jury trial and sentences him to what is equal to or worse than death. When taking his experience and understanding into perspective, is it proper to sentence such a person according to laws written for "civilization"?
NO!
This is how God sees all of us! We are held responsible for that which we understand and which has been taught to us. If a pagan bushman who lived a life according to what we see as Christian principles, but devoid of the name of Jesus (for lack of knowing who He is) dies, would God truly reject him from His divine presence? Is that justice? No! That is not justice. As the words of Our Lord indicate, if, we, who are sinful, know what to give our own children, does God not know what to give us?
So, if we, as sinners, can recognize such injustice, can we not understand that God has a much greater understanding than we do? If we can see that injustice exists in this situation here on earth, how does that influence how we understand the judgment God subjects all of humanity to at the time of our death?
I believe that pagan bushmen will enter Heaven before people like you and I will. Jesus himself said this very thing.
Justice takes circumstances into account. Justice cannot exist devoid of Mercy, and Jesus Himself has taught us this. God Himself revealed this to us through the Old Testament....for all those out there crying for "Justice", if they were faced with Justice devoid of Mercy, they'd be crying ONLY for Mercy. True Mercy cannot exist without Justice, and Justice cannot exist without Mercy.
And neither exists without Reason.
Reason was not applied in the case of the goat-killing bushman. Thus, there was neither Justice or Mercy.
This movie is a great one for philosophical and theological minds. I'd love to watch this movie with a Biblical Anthropologist, a Theologian, and a Philosopher. I'd supply the wine and cheese (or pizza and beer, etc.) just to sit on the side, listen, and take notes!
I'd also love to watch it with someone versed in Theology of the Body. Take the prissy teacher (Kate), for example. On one hand, while she's understandably (and quite wisely) on guard, at the same time, she also seems to be terrified of dirt and willing to accept the role of "damsel in distress" even in the presence of the man she considers to be a threat. (The bumbling biologist). And when he trips and throws her into the water, while she still tries to hang on to this model, she rapidly realizes that it's better just to realize she's suddenly become a part of an unplanned wet t-shirt contest that no one is watching, sucks it up and, with great irritation, gets on with the business of surviving in the African bush.
The poor bumbling biologist is actually the nice guy, a very unlikely hero, and has the UTMOST respect for women. Such that, when he is called to literally rescue the lady, he is faced with his worst fears...actual contact with her! And he has to save her from a plant which has no regard for her modesty. Which leads him to have to assist her out of the "fallen" (in the biblical sense) plant. Even though she is in only her underwear, she demands that he "not look", so he finds that he has to resolve her problem through glances at where the plant has caught her, while avoiding actually gazing upon her. His embarassement is palpable. And as a woman, I can say that HER embarassment is palpable also to me.
To add to the plot, she thinks he has previously come on to her in a major way, likely feels she is at risk of being raped. And this poor guy doesn't even want to be there! He has no interest in doing anything but showing the lady respect...and he does anything but. Because he is a klutz surrounded by weird circumstances.
I could go on, but suspect that in the last few days, I have bored my regular readers. And I further suspect I'm boring you all now. If you're still reading, that is.
But I REALLY hope I have not bored you all out of watching this movie. These days there aren't a lot of movies rellly worth watching. But this one is worth it. It's a good clean movie with lots of topics for discussion, no matter what your viewpoint or affiliation.
Maybe I should watch it again in a year and see how else it could be theologized?
NAH! Sometimes a good movie is just a good movie.
"The Gods Must Be Crazy", though...that one's great for simple entertainment AND intellectual discussions.
Anyone...your thoughts on this movie?
Thursday, January 10, 2008
I FEEL GOOD!
Whoa-oa-oa! I feel good, I knew that I would, now
I feel good, I knew that I would, now
So good, so good, ~ James Brown
Ok, seriously.
Tonight I went to work out. For the first time in longer than I care to think about. A real workout.
Of course, it was a basic workout, because if there is one thing I know, it is to not overdo it the first time out. No matter how tempting.
I got up on the elliptical machine as planned, did a "hill" workout at level 2 (oh, how I've fallen!), for 20 minutes. I was tempted to hit 30 minutes, but realized that it really is better to start slow and easy and see how it goes. Besides, I have old injuries that have been bothering me and they do NOT need to be aggravated!
It was nice. I was feelin' the burn and yet, pleased that even in the middle of my workout, I wasn't overly tired, I wasn't pushing myself too hard, but I could feel my muscles working. Oh, yes, the leg muscles were burning.
After I'd stretched out a bit, I went to the weights, considering an upper body workout and realized I'd forgotten my elbow brace. So instead, I just took a little tour, trying to remember my favorite machines and how to use them.
I'm really embarassed to admit I need a refreshed. I do remember some of them, but didn't make any attempts tonight. Instead, I realized that it actually would be proper to take advantage of my 2 free trainer sessions to refresh my memory and teach me a few things that might be specific to my current condition.
Certainly, I'll remember a lot once I get into things again, but the reality is that I am not an expert, and it's important to start off well, rather than wreck myself.
So, tomorrow I'll call the head trainer and set up a couple sessions with someone. Because it will be worth it in the long run. Because a dose of humility is going to save me from a bad fall from my pride.
* sigh *
I feel very good about what I did today, and am looking forward to the great rewards to be gained by the pain and agony (the good kind) I'm about to experience in the coming weeks.
I feel good, I knew that I would, now
So good, so good, ~ James Brown
Ok, seriously.
Tonight I went to work out. For the first time in longer than I care to think about. A real workout.
Of course, it was a basic workout, because if there is one thing I know, it is to not overdo it the first time out. No matter how tempting.
I got up on the elliptical machine as planned, did a "hill" workout at level 2 (oh, how I've fallen!), for 20 minutes. I was tempted to hit 30 minutes, but realized that it really is better to start slow and easy and see how it goes. Besides, I have old injuries that have been bothering me and they do NOT need to be aggravated!
It was nice. I was feelin' the burn and yet, pleased that even in the middle of my workout, I wasn't overly tired, I wasn't pushing myself too hard, but I could feel my muscles working. Oh, yes, the leg muscles were burning.
After I'd stretched out a bit, I went to the weights, considering an upper body workout and realized I'd forgotten my elbow brace. So instead, I just took a little tour, trying to remember my favorite machines and how to use them.
I'm really embarassed to admit I need a refreshed. I do remember some of them, but didn't make any attempts tonight. Instead, I realized that it actually would be proper to take advantage of my 2 free trainer sessions to refresh my memory and teach me a few things that might be specific to my current condition.
Certainly, I'll remember a lot once I get into things again, but the reality is that I am not an expert, and it's important to start off well, rather than wreck myself.
So, tomorrow I'll call the head trainer and set up a couple sessions with someone. Because it will be worth it in the long run. Because a dose of humility is going to save me from a bad fall from my pride.
* sigh *
I feel very good about what I did today, and am looking forward to the great rewards to be gained by the pain and agony (the good kind) I'm about to experience in the coming weeks.
Random Things
Life is crazy, but life is good.
I got my car back from the shop (again!) yesterday. They replaced the bumper cover and absorber. I did not pay a dime. Not for the repairs, not for the rental; the other policyholder's adjuster accepted 100% liability for my loss. YAY!
I did have to put gas in the tank of the rental car, though. And as soon as I picked my car up, I had to go put gas in THAT. * sigh *
Next up....FITNESS!
I am going to be going skiing for the first time in 2 years next week. I've been in serious ski withdrawl for that entire time, but haven't been able to go. So I dug out my ski stuff to be sure it's all in order, went to try on my ski pants...and they don't fit.
I'm just a size too big I think, and horrbly embarassed to admit it. I seriously cannot believe how I have let myself go, what horrible shape I'm in, and I'm sick of feeling like a fat pig.
Walking the dog is not doing it for me; the sidewalks are icy, even when they DO exist, and going is slow. It's not a useful "workout" by any stretch of the imagination. And winter walks tend to be shorter due to cold and difficulty (ie risking life and limb just so the dog can go potty.)
So, I finally have been motivated to check into our local club. I'm familiar with it because I did rehab there after my surgery in 2001-2002. It's very close to me, and they verified they will accept my health insurance and give me $20.00 off if I go to the club 12 times in a month.
Yesterday I met with my membership person and got a tour of the club. Seriously, I was getting more and more excited! They ALWAYS have lap swim, there is never a wait for a machine, even in their peak times, and they're open 24 hours. Their weight machines are extensive so I can cross train with machines, free weights, and dumbbells.
So...tonight will be my first club workout in a very long time. I cancelled my cable in order to be able to pay for my membership. I've been meaning to cancel my cable, anyway, and unfortunately, that means I'll be missing ski racing because I will no longer have access to that channel. But the tradeoff is too important, so...BUH-BYE!
I am not working out to lose weight, but rather, for the sake of working out. Believe it or not, I LOVED working out, especially when I was in peak condition. I love the brutality of a hard workout, and having the benefit of increased energy. It'll be a humbling experience to start out again, though, because the last time I was in a club I was doing 20 lb bicep curls. (yes, really). No more. But I do remember that once muscle is built, it never goes away, it just gets flabby. So once I start lifting again, it will come back and as a side effect, the pounds will come off.
Must get started!
So tonight will find me at the gym, on the elliptical machine, likely complaining that I'm not in shape anymore, and likely doing the easiest workout and still getting winded. * sigh *
Well...must start somewhere!
I got my car back from the shop (again!) yesterday. They replaced the bumper cover and absorber. I did not pay a dime. Not for the repairs, not for the rental; the other policyholder's adjuster accepted 100% liability for my loss. YAY!
I did have to put gas in the tank of the rental car, though. And as soon as I picked my car up, I had to go put gas in THAT. * sigh *
Next up....FITNESS!
I am going to be going skiing for the first time in 2 years next week. I've been in serious ski withdrawl for that entire time, but haven't been able to go. So I dug out my ski stuff to be sure it's all in order, went to try on my ski pants...and they don't fit.
I'm just a size too big I think, and horrbly embarassed to admit it. I seriously cannot believe how I have let myself go, what horrible shape I'm in, and I'm sick of feeling like a fat pig.
Walking the dog is not doing it for me; the sidewalks are icy, even when they DO exist, and going is slow. It's not a useful "workout" by any stretch of the imagination. And winter walks tend to be shorter due to cold and difficulty (ie risking life and limb just so the dog can go potty.)
So, I finally have been motivated to check into our local club. I'm familiar with it because I did rehab there after my surgery in 2001-2002. It's very close to me, and they verified they will accept my health insurance and give me $20.00 off if I go to the club 12 times in a month.
Yesterday I met with my membership person and got a tour of the club. Seriously, I was getting more and more excited! They ALWAYS have lap swim, there is never a wait for a machine, even in their peak times, and they're open 24 hours. Their weight machines are extensive so I can cross train with machines, free weights, and dumbbells.
So...tonight will be my first club workout in a very long time. I cancelled my cable in order to be able to pay for my membership. I've been meaning to cancel my cable, anyway, and unfortunately, that means I'll be missing ski racing because I will no longer have access to that channel. But the tradeoff is too important, so...BUH-BYE!
I am not working out to lose weight, but rather, for the sake of working out. Believe it or not, I LOVED working out, especially when I was in peak condition. I love the brutality of a hard workout, and having the benefit of increased energy. It'll be a humbling experience to start out again, though, because the last time I was in a club I was doing 20 lb bicep curls. (yes, really). No more. But I do remember that once muscle is built, it never goes away, it just gets flabby. So once I start lifting again, it will come back and as a side effect, the pounds will come off.
Must get started!
So tonight will find me at the gym, on the elliptical machine, likely complaining that I'm not in shape anymore, and likely doing the easiest workout and still getting winded. * sigh *
Well...must start somewhere!
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
The World is Not Enough
Today I came across this meditation I wrote a few years ago, considering the meaning of "The Call", and in general, what it means to be a child of God.
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Written July 20, 2005
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It is a gift to be called by God to serve Him and Him alone. We are given only one life and as such, we are all called to one death. But for some, death comes gently and willingly if we accept a Call to die to the world (sacramentally, for some), in favor of the path our Heavenly Father allows us to choose.
Consider - to offer the Lord not only the one natural and expected death, but two deaths, one sacramental or symbolic, substantiated by action and a radical change in lifestyle! And how the Lord graces us both to answer that Call and to give us the ability to thank Him for all that is given in His love.
In my life I have been so richly blessed. God has given me nearly everything I thought I wanted. Sometimes He gave me just enough to realize I only wanted a taste, and that was enough. Sometimes He has allowed me to immerse myself entirely in my fancies, and sometimes just a quick glance of the reality of what I was asking for. And like the Father he is, God continually kept His gentle guiding hand upon me. Even as I struggled and tantrumed, he waited patiently, occasionally calling me away from danger. And when I got burned in the flames of my desires or bruised by my follies, He let me come back to Him to be comforted. And when I grew weary, he waited for me to crawl into his lap and fall asleep against his heart.
I asked God for the world and he gave it to me. He helped me to play and showed me many secrets and joys of His creation to help me understand this great gift to humanity. He watched me and He smiled at my delight. When I didn’t play fair or got greedy, He scowled and chastised me, and when I abused my gift, He took it away for a time, forcing me to change my habits and return to gratefulness. Then God would give the world back to me, even though He knew what I would do and what would happen.
St. Therese of Lisieux once compared herself to a ball belonging to the child Jesus, and so I offer this scenario and draw a similar picture as to the world God created for us. The "accident" in that the world is round and therefore ball-shaped is not coincidental, especially when considered in light of St. Therese's idea.
So I return to the image of playing with the World in the form of a ball to kick around, or maybe, as in a game of dodge-ball, to be struck and bruised by it. Over time, I have become tired of the play and the games. So often the World has led me into sin, both willingly and unwillingly. We are God’s children, sometimes clumsy in our play and sometimes as we try to pick up the ball, we kick it and it flies into the busy street or over the precipice into the rocky ravine wrought with snakes or other crawly dangers of nature. So often, I have followed this unruly World over the precipice or into the street, only to suffer the consequences once more for my iniquities. When I should have stopped like a good child and looked to God for help in retrieving this gift, I have ignored the call of the Lord to wait for Him to help and I have run headlong into danger, heedless of the consequences. Time and time again I have crawled out of the ravine, bruised and bloody and tearful. And time and time again Jesus has held out His hand to me and has lent me his shoulder and has wiped away my tears while forgiving my errant ways. And so time and time again I have returned to play and have both conquered and have been conquered by the World. And again and again I have leapt over the precipice in search of the World and have landed, crushed in a heap at the bottom of the abyss of my own making.
Now I have crawled out, having too many times been confronted by the reality of the World I thought I wanted. I have come back to the Lord, knelt at the feet of Jesus and I have washed his feet with my tears and wiped them clean with my hair. I have glanced up into his twinkling and merciful eyes and have earnestly explained to him that I learned my lesson. I don’t want the World anymore.
The world is not enough.
I have to admit I don’t really know what to do with such a fine gift, anyway. So I offer the World back to the Lord and I thank Him for the generous gift. And then I tell him in all seriousness,
“The world is not enough. It’s beautiful and I love the gifts you bestow on us. But it is not enough. Now I want Heaven. Dearest Jesus, will you give us Heaven and Eternal Life? Will you have mercy on all of us sinners? What do I need to give you in order to obtain this great reward?”
And eyes twinkling again, Jesus takes the World from my battle-scarred and callused hands, he takes my hands in his, kisses them, embraces me and says, “Just this. Just give this back to me and put your hands in mine and I will lead you home.”
God waits all our lives for us to finally come to Him and ask not for more temporal goods, but Heaven. Eternal union with Him. He wants us to be with Him forever in eternity and his gift is free; but we have to ask for it and follow the right path. We have to recognize the great gift the Lord offers and we have to understand that we cannot attain it for and of ourselves.
Rather, we have to go to Jesus and let him lead us to the very throne of the Heavenly Father so that we can be with him for eternity.
The World can never be enough. Not when Jesus has offered his life and death, that we may live forever.
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Written July 20, 2005
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It is a gift to be called by God to serve Him and Him alone. We are given only one life and as such, we are all called to one death. But for some, death comes gently and willingly if we accept a Call to die to the world (sacramentally, for some), in favor of the path our Heavenly Father allows us to choose.
Consider - to offer the Lord not only the one natural and expected death, but two deaths, one sacramental or symbolic, substantiated by action and a radical change in lifestyle! And how the Lord graces us both to answer that Call and to give us the ability to thank Him for all that is given in His love.
In my life I have been so richly blessed. God has given me nearly everything I thought I wanted. Sometimes He gave me just enough to realize I only wanted a taste, and that was enough. Sometimes He has allowed me to immerse myself entirely in my fancies, and sometimes just a quick glance of the reality of what I was asking for. And like the Father he is, God continually kept His gentle guiding hand upon me. Even as I struggled and tantrumed, he waited patiently, occasionally calling me away from danger. And when I got burned in the flames of my desires or bruised by my follies, He let me come back to Him to be comforted. And when I grew weary, he waited for me to crawl into his lap and fall asleep against his heart.
I asked God for the world and he gave it to me. He helped me to play and showed me many secrets and joys of His creation to help me understand this great gift to humanity. He watched me and He smiled at my delight. When I didn’t play fair or got greedy, He scowled and chastised me, and when I abused my gift, He took it away for a time, forcing me to change my habits and return to gratefulness. Then God would give the world back to me, even though He knew what I would do and what would happen.
St. Therese of Lisieux once compared herself to a ball belonging to the child Jesus, and so I offer this scenario and draw a similar picture as to the world God created for us. The "accident" in that the world is round and therefore ball-shaped is not coincidental, especially when considered in light of St. Therese's idea.
So I return to the image of playing with the World in the form of a ball to kick around, or maybe, as in a game of dodge-ball, to be struck and bruised by it. Over time, I have become tired of the play and the games. So often the World has led me into sin, both willingly and unwillingly. We are God’s children, sometimes clumsy in our play and sometimes as we try to pick up the ball, we kick it and it flies into the busy street or over the precipice into the rocky ravine wrought with snakes or other crawly dangers of nature. So often, I have followed this unruly World over the precipice or into the street, only to suffer the consequences once more for my iniquities. When I should have stopped like a good child and looked to God for help in retrieving this gift, I have ignored the call of the Lord to wait for Him to help and I have run headlong into danger, heedless of the consequences. Time and time again I have crawled out of the ravine, bruised and bloody and tearful. And time and time again Jesus has held out His hand to me and has lent me his shoulder and has wiped away my tears while forgiving my errant ways. And so time and time again I have returned to play and have both conquered and have been conquered by the World. And again and again I have leapt over the precipice in search of the World and have landed, crushed in a heap at the bottom of the abyss of my own making.
Now I have crawled out, having too many times been confronted by the reality of the World I thought I wanted. I have come back to the Lord, knelt at the feet of Jesus and I have washed his feet with my tears and wiped them clean with my hair. I have glanced up into his twinkling and merciful eyes and have earnestly explained to him that I learned my lesson. I don’t want the World anymore.
The world is not enough.
I have to admit I don’t really know what to do with such a fine gift, anyway. So I offer the World back to the Lord and I thank Him for the generous gift. And then I tell him in all seriousness,
“The world is not enough. It’s beautiful and I love the gifts you bestow on us. But it is not enough. Now I want Heaven. Dearest Jesus, will you give us Heaven and Eternal Life? Will you have mercy on all of us sinners? What do I need to give you in order to obtain this great reward?”
And eyes twinkling again, Jesus takes the World from my battle-scarred and callused hands, he takes my hands in his, kisses them, embraces me and says, “Just this. Just give this back to me and put your hands in mine and I will lead you home.”
God waits all our lives for us to finally come to Him and ask not for more temporal goods, but Heaven. Eternal union with Him. He wants us to be with Him forever in eternity and his gift is free; but we have to ask for it and follow the right path. We have to recognize the great gift the Lord offers and we have to understand that we cannot attain it for and of ourselves.
Rather, we have to go to Jesus and let him lead us to the very throne of the Heavenly Father so that we can be with him for eternity.
The World can never be enough. Not when Jesus has offered his life and death, that we may live forever.
Monday, January 07, 2008
Meme Without a Name
I found this over at Orthometer, and since I love Jesus, Fr. Richtsteig said I was tagged.
1. Do you wear a name tag at work? Sometimes, only if I have to go through the school or speak at an event, faith formation nights, etc. It otherwise gets in the way.
2. What kind of car do you drive? Saturn Ion 2 (very cool..it has a digital temperature gauge on the rearview mirror, it has traction control, anti-lock brakes. I like my car. Wish someone hadn't crashed into it.)
3. What do you order when you go to Taco Bell? Um...tacos? Ok, I like the steak and lime taco, but I haven't been there for so long I don't even know if they have it anymore.
4. Have you ever had a garage sale? When I was a kid my Mom had one...does that count?
5. What color is your iPod? I don't have one. (Yes, you heard me. I'm a charity case...will you donate one?) LOL!
6. What kind of dog do you have? German Shepherd
7. What's for dinner tonight? Thai Peanut Chicken
8. What is the last alcoholic beverage you had? Chardonnay, and not a very good one.
9. Stupidest thing you ever did with your cell phone? I don't have a cell phone. When I HAD a cell phone, I used it to call my boyfriend. Now my ex. What a waste of time. But at least he paid for the cell phone and the bill.
10. Last time you were sick? After Thanksgiving.
11. How long is your hair? Below my shoulders
12. Are you happy right now? Define "happiness". That's theological term, you know.
13. What did you say last? "Good girl!" (talking to my dog)
14. Who came over last? A neighbor returning something.
15. Do you drink beer? Yes, it's yummy.
16. Have your brothers or sisters ever told you that you were adopted? Yup. My brother did, and he also told me that I was a "mistake". Mom corrected BOTH of us in VERY SHORT ORDER after I went to her in tears. And she was VERY ANGRY when she learned that I'd been pondering what my brother had told me for WEEKS before I said anything.
17. What is your favorite key chain on your keys? A very small image of Our Mother of Perpetual Help.
18. What did you get for graduation? I don't remember. It's been too long.
19. Whats in your pocket? lint and probably dog hair. Dog hair everywhere.
20. Who introduced you to Dane Cook? Who?
21. Has someone ever made you a Build-A-Bear? A WHAT!?
22. What DVD is in your DVD player? Chronicles of Narnia
23. What's something fun you did today? Drove the bright red Jetta they gave me as a rental vehicle while my car's being repaired.
24. Who is/was the principal of your high school? I don't remember his name. He was nice, though, and suggested I get a minor emancipation in light of my family situation. That was my only contact with him my entire 3 years of high school. Other than when I needed him for a reference for a college app.
25. Has your house ever been TP'd? Nope. But I've TP's other people's houses!
26.What do you think of when you hear the word "meow"? Sarcasm if it's spoken. A fuzzy creatures with small pointy ears and a tail if the "word" is actuall the sound emitted by the creature we call a "cat".
27. What are you listening to right now? King of the Hill on TV.
28. Drinking? Thinking about having a glass of white wine. Or water. Or nothing.
29. What is your favorite aisle at Wal-Mart? Dunno...haven't been there in a long time.
30. When is your mom's birthday? October 30
31. When is your birthday? June 20
32. What's the area code for your cell phone? Just yell really loud, call me at work or call me at home. If you get my voice mail, leave a message and I'll get back to you. If you're resorting to yelling...well, I hope YOU have a cell phone because you must be in big trouble! So send Lassie to come get me.
33. Where did you buy the shirt you're wearing now? Um....it was given to me by a friend. I'm assuming she bought it somewhere.Uh...I HOPE she, or SOMEONE paid for it....huh!?
34. Is there anything hanging from your rear view mirror? A rosary
35. How many states in the US have you been to? Um...a ver...Minnesota, Illinois, Iowa, Wisconsin, Michigan (UP), Missouri, Florida, Arizona, North Dakota, South Dakota. That's...10.
36. What kind of milk do you drink? Skim.
37. What are you going to do after this? Vegetate, cook, walk the dog and try not to fall on the ice.
38. Who was the last person you went shopping with? Don't remember. I hate shopping and only go if I know what I'm looking for. This morning I went shopping for new snowpants and new outdoor shoes/boots. Found 'em on sale! SCORE!
39. What is your favorite fruit? Raspberries
40. What about your favorite dessert? It varies, but I rarely eat dessert no matter what it is. At home...ice cream, maybe. At a restaurant...whatever is gooey, chocolatey, unless it's a pecan pie even without chocolate...then I want that.
41. What is something you need to go shopping for? The list is long...the money in my account...non existant. I used a credit card today to pay for things I needed because I can't delay anymore. Something about winter and holes in the shoes, worn tread, and leaky boots is just not compatible.
42. Do you have the same name as one of your relatives? No.
43. What kind of car does one of your siblings drive? SUV Chevy Yukon
44. Do you like pickles? No
45. How about olives? Yes
46. What is your favorite kind of gum? Orbitz, or some other kind of gum. I rarely chew it. And ONLY in church. (Just kidding, Father Richtsteig!) Um...but I do WORK in a church, and I DO chew gum in our office on occasion. Is that OK?
47. What is your favorite kind of juice? Orange or Lemonade
48. Do you have any tan lines? Are you kidding?! I'm fair skinned and live in Minnesota!
49. What hospital were you born in? Rockford Memorial
And I tag...anyone who has an ipod and a cell phone.
1. Do you wear a name tag at work? Sometimes, only if I have to go through the school or speak at an event, faith formation nights, etc. It otherwise gets in the way.
2. What kind of car do you drive? Saturn Ion 2 (very cool..it has a digital temperature gauge on the rearview mirror, it has traction control, anti-lock brakes. I like my car. Wish someone hadn't crashed into it.)
3. What do you order when you go to Taco Bell? Um...tacos? Ok, I like the steak and lime taco, but I haven't been there for so long I don't even know if they have it anymore.
4. Have you ever had a garage sale? When I was a kid my Mom had one...does that count?
5. What color is your iPod? I don't have one. (Yes, you heard me. I'm a charity case...will you donate one?) LOL!
6. What kind of dog do you have? German Shepherd
7. What's for dinner tonight? Thai Peanut Chicken
8. What is the last alcoholic beverage you had? Chardonnay, and not a very good one.
9. Stupidest thing you ever did with your cell phone? I don't have a cell phone. When I HAD a cell phone, I used it to call my boyfriend. Now my ex. What a waste of time. But at least he paid for the cell phone and the bill.
10. Last time you were sick? After Thanksgiving.
11. How long is your hair? Below my shoulders
12. Are you happy right now? Define "happiness". That's theological term, you know.
13. What did you say last? "Good girl!" (talking to my dog)
14. Who came over last? A neighbor returning something.
15. Do you drink beer? Yes, it's yummy.
16. Have your brothers or sisters ever told you that you were adopted? Yup. My brother did, and he also told me that I was a "mistake". Mom corrected BOTH of us in VERY SHORT ORDER after I went to her in tears. And she was VERY ANGRY when she learned that I'd been pondering what my brother had told me for WEEKS before I said anything.
17. What is your favorite key chain on your keys? A very small image of Our Mother of Perpetual Help.
18. What did you get for graduation? I don't remember. It's been too long.
19. Whats in your pocket? lint and probably dog hair. Dog hair everywhere.
20. Who introduced you to Dane Cook? Who?
21. Has someone ever made you a Build-A-Bear? A WHAT!?
22. What DVD is in your DVD player? Chronicles of Narnia
23. What's something fun you did today? Drove the bright red Jetta they gave me as a rental vehicle while my car's being repaired.
24. Who is/was the principal of your high school? I don't remember his name. He was nice, though, and suggested I get a minor emancipation in light of my family situation. That was my only contact with him my entire 3 years of high school. Other than when I needed him for a reference for a college app.
25. Has your house ever been TP'd? Nope. But I've TP's other people's houses!
26.What do you think of when you hear the word "meow"? Sarcasm if it's spoken. A fuzzy creatures with small pointy ears and a tail if the "word" is actuall the sound emitted by the creature we call a "cat".
27. What are you listening to right now? King of the Hill on TV.
28. Drinking? Thinking about having a glass of white wine. Or water. Or nothing.
29. What is your favorite aisle at Wal-Mart? Dunno...haven't been there in a long time.
30. When is your mom's birthday? October 30
31. When is your birthday? June 20
32. What's the area code for your cell phone? Just yell really loud, call me at work or call me at home. If you get my voice mail, leave a message and I'll get back to you. If you're resorting to yelling...well, I hope YOU have a cell phone because you must be in big trouble! So send Lassie to come get me.
33. Where did you buy the shirt you're wearing now? Um....it was given to me by a friend. I'm assuming she bought it somewhere.Uh...I HOPE she, or SOMEONE paid for it....huh!?
34. Is there anything hanging from your rear view mirror? A rosary
35. How many states in the US have you been to? Um...a ver...Minnesota, Illinois, Iowa, Wisconsin, Michigan (UP), Missouri, Florida, Arizona, North Dakota, South Dakota. That's...10.
36. What kind of milk do you drink? Skim.
37. What are you going to do after this? Vegetate, cook, walk the dog and try not to fall on the ice.
38. Who was the last person you went shopping with? Don't remember. I hate shopping and only go if I know what I'm looking for. This morning I went shopping for new snowpants and new outdoor shoes/boots. Found 'em on sale! SCORE!
39. What is your favorite fruit? Raspberries
40. What about your favorite dessert? It varies, but I rarely eat dessert no matter what it is. At home...ice cream, maybe. At a restaurant...whatever is gooey, chocolatey, unless it's a pecan pie even without chocolate...then I want that.
41. What is something you need to go shopping for? The list is long...the money in my account...non existant. I used a credit card today to pay for things I needed because I can't delay anymore. Something about winter and holes in the shoes, worn tread, and leaky boots is just not compatible.
42. Do you have the same name as one of your relatives? No.
43. What kind of car does one of your siblings drive? SUV Chevy Yukon
44. Do you like pickles? No
45. How about olives? Yes
46. What is your favorite kind of gum? Orbitz, or some other kind of gum. I rarely chew it. And ONLY in church. (Just kidding, Father Richtsteig!) Um...but I do WORK in a church, and I DO chew gum in our office on occasion. Is that OK?
47. What is your favorite kind of juice? Orange or Lemonade
48. Do you have any tan lines? Are you kidding?! I'm fair skinned and live in Minnesota!
49. What hospital were you born in? Rockford Memorial
And I tag...anyone who has an ipod and a cell phone.
No-Fault and Liability
I'd like to preface this installment with the following disclaimer:
I am citing mainly Minnesota Law. There are several states that are known as "No-Fault" states. Those states that do not have "No-Fault" are "Tort" states and so are subject to differences in how this is handled. If you live in a "No-Fault" state, then most of what I'll be saying applies.
NO-FAULT
Somewhere in my first year on the job, when I was still a Generalist, I handled a very simple claim: Car A rear-ended Car B. We insured Car A, and as liability was clear, I contacted the other parties and we got their car into the shop for repairs, paid for a rental, all up front.
The damage to their car was minimal, but the passengers reported some stiffness and one party did visit the doctor. So, per company policy, I went out to meet with the parents (one of them was the injured party) and discuss Minnesota's No Fault law and how injuries are handled.
Raise your hand if you've ever heard someone say with regard to an accident, "No one is at fault...this is a "no fault" state." Raise your OTHER hand if the person you heard that from was a cop.
Seriously, the police in this state need to be educated on this very simple fact. And so does everyone else, so listen closely:
The term "no fault" has NOTHING to do with liability. Typically in an accident, SOMEONE is at fault in an accident. And what always amazed me was that even after I had written a check to someone, that person would be saying something about "no fault" and "he's not going to pay because this is a "no fault" state."
OK, seriously, then, why are we talking and what insurance company is listed on that check in your hot little hand?
And that was the situation during the claim that I mentioned. As soon as I sat down with the customers to discuss their injury claim and mentioned "No-fault", the guy ducked his head, clasped his hands together and said in a low, gruff voice, "I'm just telling you right now, I'm going to FIGHT THIS!"
I took a deep breath. He wouldn't make eye contact with me, so I mildly told him that he had nothing to fight. I pointed out that there was a rental in their driveway and I was paying the bill. And would pay the bill on the accident-related repairs. It was a done deal. What was he fighting?
He finally looked up after that.
This is very simple, actually. "No-fault" simply means that, if you are involved in an accident AND you are injured, you MUST go trough your OWN insurance company to cover your MEDICAL expenses. You're paying premium on that, and utilizing the benefits DOES NOT affect your insurance rates. EVEN IF you're a PASSENGER in someone else's car and you're injured, regardless of who is at fault in the accident, you MUST call your own insurance company and report an injury-only claim.
No-fault, then, applies ONLY to injuries.
Now, if you are driving someone else's car or you are a passenger in that car, and you don't have your own car/insurance, then the car you are in will cover your medical bills. Again, this is no detriment to the policyholder. This is Minnesota State Law, and the law was designed to protect people.
There's more to say about injury claims, but it's best to discuss liability first.
LIABILITY
Liability basically means "negligent". There is always a question; who is negligent in a given loss?
What if you spin out on icy roads and hit the guard rail? Well, it's car vs. immovable object. YOU'RE at fault for driving too fast and failing to maintain control. Don't argue about the fact it's icy....in that same area, while you sat there stuck to the mangled rail, waiting for a tow truck, countless cars passed you safely, didn't they? Without crashing.
OK, what if a deer jumps out in front of you and ends up bashing into your fender?
You are NOT at fault (unless you happen to be a Foxworthy-type redneck and you were in the ditch HUNTING the deer using your car as a weapon). Seriously, deer hits are handled under comprehensive coverage, not collision, and there is no liability to you.
In the event of more than one vehicle, often liability (who is negligent) is very clear; such as when a car is stopped at a red light and another car fails to stop, resulting in a rear-end collision.
Intersection accidents can be trickier; if coming from opposing directions, SOMEONE had a red light or a stop sign, or in the event of an uncontrolled intersection, someone didn't yield in accordance with the law.
Yes, there are laws that govern uncontrolled intersections.
Anyway, now I must introduce another term, which applies under Minnesota State Law:
COMPARATIVE NEGLIGENCE
This means that BOTH or ALL drivers can SHARE in the cause of the accident. Keep in mind... "comp neg" doesn't always apply. But sometimes it does. Take the example of an intersection accident, especially if it is uncontrolled. Both drivers approach the intersection, neither sees each other and neither looks to see if anyone is coming, so they collide in the center. Both are at fault. Was one car going faster than the limit? What if one driver had a stop sign and the other didn't, and the guy with a stop sign ran it? Well, that doesn't automatically excuse the other driver. What if that other "innocent" driver saw the car coming and "assumed" that, since he had a sign, that he was going to stop?
Well, there's comp neg. That "innocent" driver is at least 10% at fault for failing to take evasive action.
I'm not going to define every scenario, and I HATED making comp neg decisons. HATED IT.
But here's a fact that a lot of people like to ignore; they often complain about insurance companies paying only 80 or 90% of a claim, and say idiotic things like: "You're 10% at fault for just BEING there!"
FALSE, FALSE, FALSE!
If you are illegally parked and your car is unattended and gets hit BECAUSE it was parked so strangely and in a location clearly marked for no parking, THEN you could be 10-30% at fault for BEING there even if you weren't in the car and driving at the time.
Other than that....no. If your car is legally parked and a drunk swipes it some night, you're not at fault. Even if your insurance company has to pay because the other car/driver can't be identified, it doesn't change the fact that you are not liable in that case.
The other complaint about insurance companies and comp neg: People blame the insurance company fr the comparatie negligence law. The reality is that this is not something made up by or for insurance companies. It's a STATE LAW. The insurance company has to ABIDE by it. So don't blame the insurance company if you are held liable for something you did wrong, which also has to be cited. List your vice: inattention, speed (by the way, it's on the books that speeding negates right-of-way), etc.
JOINT AND SEVERAL LIABILITY
When I started, the "Joint and Several" law was something I didn't understand, until I had to handle a claim involving it.
At the time, the law stated that, (in the event of a multi-vehicle or other property accident), if you are more than 15% at fault, then you can be held responsible for 100% of the damages. WHEW!
Keep in mind, this is no longer the law, and I will explain the change after I explain the scenario which only makes sense under the old law.
Here's what happened:
Car A was sitting in traffic, waiting for the light to turn. He was far back from the light. It was a divided highway, separated by a grassy median, no fence, and the southbound side was flowing freely.
Car A happened to glance in the mirror and saw a black car coming towards him, not slowing down. He KNEW that he was going to get hit and pushed into the car ahead of him. He cranked his wheel to the left, bracing for impact, hoping that the impact with the turned wheel would drive him into the median and alongside traffic so he could avoid hitting the car in front of him. He also touched his gas pedal just before impact, hoping to ultimately avoid being hit. Thus, at the time of impact, he was both steering his car TOO FAR to the left AND giving the car a little gas.
I actually commend his very quick thinking, and had he had more time, it could have worked.
As it was, it didn't. Car B hit him, and because he had turned his wheel TOO FAR to his left, AND because of the hard impact and even the small acceleration he gave his car, Vehicle A literally SAILED over the grassy median, airborne, and T-boned a car in the southbound lane.
The southbound car couldn't have done ANYTHING to avoid the accident. Who could have seen THAT coming?
The driver of Car A stated to me that he felt that the driver of Car C was fully innocent. He believed that Car B was 100% responsible for the accident. The driver of Car C ALSO agreed that Car A was innocent, and felt that Car B was 100% at fault for causing the rear-end collision.
I as the rep for Car C agreed, (Call me Company C), the rep for A agreed, and we both tried to find the company for Car B.
I can't remember, but I do think I got a statement from Driver B. She first told us she'd get her insurance info...she was later to admit that she did not have insurance on her vehicle at the time of the loss.
Well, that left 2 very seriously damaged vehicle, and 2 companies who agreed neither was actually at fault in the loss. In other words, the proximate cause of the entire accident was Car B, and we would have difficulty collecting from this individual who had no insurance.
That's where joint & several came in.
I hated to do it, but I finally understood what it meant. The reality was that Driver A HAD made errors that caused him to sail over the median. Ironically, if he'd not tried to do anything, he would have been 100% innocent.
Unfortunately, it was his evasive actions that caused him to crash into my customer. Would he have hit her if he hadn't been rearended so hard? No. But under this law, he was more than 15% at fault for my customer's damage...and so we sent a subrogation (insurance term for collection) claim against that company.
Remember, we didn't make the law. And it is the Subro department that ultimately determines whether joint & several apply...and it did.
Now, as I understand it, that did not mean that the driver of Car A was HIMSELF 100% liable for the loss...he was 15-20% liable for MY CUSTOMER'S loss, and had Car B had insurance, we would NEVER have brought a claim against his company. And that's exactly what was going on..we were bringing the claim against the company.
That company, then, would be responsible for collection of all of the damages from the actual at-fault party. But first they had to pay us. And as I recall, the claim went to arbitration and Company A had to pay us.
NOW...in August of 2005, I believe, that law changed.
As it stands, now, only if you can be held 50 or 51% (I think it's the latter) liable for a loss, you can be held responsible for 100%. Therefore, in the case I cited, if it happened now, Company A would NOT have been subrogatable. So, this was a change in the law which is greatly beneficial for the average person whose evasive moves go weirly awry.
OTHER LIABILITY LAWS AND ISSUES
When I first began my job, my company sent me to another state to learn the generalities of policies everywhere. So I learned that some states have laws that make you pay for the percentage you are at fault. So if you are 30% at fault, you pay for 30% of the damages (in a multi-vehicle accident).
I don't remember much about that stuff as I promptly forgot about it since it didn't apply in my state and we don't handle out of state claims.
However, thare are some general things all people, at least in Minnesota (and check the laws in your own state) should know:
If you are involve in a multi-rear-end collision, and you are car 4 out of 7, your claim is against the guy who hit everyone so hard so as to involve 7 vehicles. You cannot collect against the guy immediately to your rear...he wouldn't have hit you unless he was pushed into you. UNLESS it was one of those rare situations where he hit you first, and then another idiot hit everyone harder and the first guy was pushed into you again. And in that case, the "chain breaks.
And likewise, then you'r not liable for the damages of the person ahead of you.
HOWEVER, TAKE NOTE! In a multi-vehicle crash, get EVERYONE'S INFORMATION! Get license plates, car make/model/year, insurance company and policy, driver's name, DL#, some kind of phone number, some address (even work), etc. Get everyone...your insurance company needs all of it in order to make a proper liablity decision and collect from the correct company. AND, plan to go through your own company and pay your deductible. It will save you time and get you back on the road.
I can understand not giving out your own info, but many people have cell phones, use work addresses, or in the case of law enforcement, use the police to do a "driver exchange" form. In the case of my recent accident, I gave the guy one of my business cards. I was NOT going to hand him my home # and address.
BODILY INJURY CLAIMS
In Minnesota, under the No-fault laws, you MAY still have a bodily injury claim. There are "thresholds" that apply:
* $4,000+ in treatment (does not include diagnostic tests such as MRI's)
* Death - your family collects.
* Dismemberment - in the former, your family collects. In the latter, it's evaluated based on what has been dismembered, long-term prognosis, etc.
* Severe injury - if you have broken bones or scarring, you have a BI Claim.
This differs from "Tort" states, where you'll see on your policy the term "Medpay $5,000" In Tort states, if you are injured, from the moment you or your insurance company spends $1.00 as a result, you have a bodily injury claim.
In this regard, No-fault is a bad thing...it's why PI attorneys are so rampant here. They will literally counsel their clients to run up treatment bills at chiropractors so they'll reach a $4,000 threshold, qualifying for the BI claim, which the attorney will then get paid to settle for you.
Now, a lot of people think they have to get attorneys to handle their claims. And they LOVE to use attorneys as a threat against an insurance company for ANY conflict in a claim, injury or property damage only.
So, I gotta tell ya...that's not a threat. I LOVED it when people got attorneys. First of all, it meant that the claim went buh-bye to the Casualty unit. (That's a definition I forgot earlier...they specialize in massive injury and litigation, also separated by sub-specialties. So they handled all attorney-repped claims). Anyway, often I also LOVED dealing with the attorney of an injured party because then I could get things done like settle the total loss with the attorney, who knew market values and wouldn't ask for $5,000 for a car worth $500 and claimed as a "show car" from 1979.
A claim is not handled differently if an attorney steps in; the only thing that changes is that all correspondance goes through the attorney. And sometimes clients did not understand this and would call to speak to the rep. We COULDN'T answer their questions without their attorney being on the line, so we'd have to either try to reach the attorney or have the person call the attorney to call us for the answers. What a ridiculous system. But we didn't create it; we had to follow it so as to avoid any accusation of manipulating the client or other such thing in the attorney's favor.
Also, an attorney will charge 30-40% of the settlement. And the settlement offer evaluates only the individual's injuries, prognosis, "pain and suffering", and other things, NOT the amount the attorney is taking off the top. So, people who do not get an attorney get paid more.
Now, I also realize that some companies don't follow an ethical code. Some of my own trainers came from a company that did things incorrectly and skimped on settlements. That's why she left. And I also had co-workers involved in accidents and garner BI claims (one had cracked ribs and other injuries), and was offered a paltry amount. He took the offer to our casualty unit and they were SHOCKED at what that company was offering. My friend, by that time very well versed in what SHOULD be happening, at a professional level, tried to negotiate for himself. He ended up resorting to getting an attorney, one recommended by the Casualty reps.
So, there IS a place for attorneys, and contrary to popular opinion, the business relationship between companies and attorneys is NO one of animosity. There are exceptions, certainly, but overall, the attorneys I worked with were decent.
TANGENT
I didn't work with ANY attorneys in connection to injuries - it wasn't my job. But I DID have clients get attorneys when they realized that we were investigating them for fraud. Thus, my conversations with those attorneys were very guarded, yet cordial. We knew one another's positions, and the main point of our contact was keeping updated, passing documentation back and forth, making and answering demands.
In the beginning, this intimidated me somewhat. After awhile, I got used to it and even though we "opposed" each other, our conversations were very friendly.
One in particular, just before I quit, was weird. I had inhereted a very old claim, very fraudulent, which had been closed for non-cooperation of the customer who refused to provide certain information. At first contact, the attorney was not formally representing the client, but was calling with him in his office, trying to understand the status of the claim, whether it had been denied or not, and if not, why not. He asked for a copy of the policy, which I provided. At the time, he was evaluating whether there was a case or not.
Well, he ended up taking the case. The attorney realized I was not the original file owner, realized that the file had to be gotten out of a remote location due to the fact it had been closed for a couple years, and we had a very candid conversation when I continued to stick to our position that Customer X needed to cooperate with a particular demand on our end. We could not continue our investigaion without it.
Well, during that conversation where the attorney stated that he was moving to litigation if we did not provide a certain thing by a certain date 5 days down the road, and we both realized that we were not going to cave (our own case was very strong). As it was, I also had to reveal to the attorney that, yet again, the file was being assiged because I was leaving my position. I defined to him what I was doing in the meantime to meet the demands that I could and set an expectation as to when the newly assigned rep could contact him. I also told him I'd have my manager reassign the file ASAP so the new rep could review the file.
Well, that attorney and I by then had gotten to know each other, and so he asked me why I was leaving? To go to school, make a career change, etc. He wished me luck...as it turned out, he'd gone to the Lutheran Seminary some years ago, and truly valued the experience although he determined he was not called to be a Pastor, but to the practice of Law.
It was fascinating, and I must say, a great way to end my business relationship with an opposing attorney!
So! Although this may seem to be anti-attorney, I must say that they are necessary in some cases, they fulfill a role, but they are not necessary in ALL cases. And they DO turn some clients down.
I've also had attorneys as my own customers and found them to be some of the best because they knew how things worked so it was very easy to proceed and get things accomplished.
OK, end of THAT tanget. And my fingers are tired from typing.
There will be further posts on the topic of women and body/repair shops, not just involving my work in insurance, but also as a customer. But for now...let's just go with what we have, shall we?
And again...please don't use the combox as a form for airing grievances, please don't name any companies or persons. I'm providing this info for your education so that YOU can be more informed. If you are in another state, some of the above may differ via state law, via company (if the info was company-specific). And I'm willing to answer any questions I am able.
And I'm already remembering why I was so burned out and why I quit that job.
I am citing mainly Minnesota Law. There are several states that are known as "No-Fault" states. Those states that do not have "No-Fault" are "Tort" states and so are subject to differences in how this is handled. If you live in a "No-Fault" state, then most of what I'll be saying applies.
NO-FAULT
Somewhere in my first year on the job, when I was still a Generalist, I handled a very simple claim: Car A rear-ended Car B. We insured Car A, and as liability was clear, I contacted the other parties and we got their car into the shop for repairs, paid for a rental, all up front.
The damage to their car was minimal, but the passengers reported some stiffness and one party did visit the doctor. So, per company policy, I went out to meet with the parents (one of them was the injured party) and discuss Minnesota's No Fault law and how injuries are handled.
Raise your hand if you've ever heard someone say with regard to an accident, "No one is at fault...this is a "no fault" state." Raise your OTHER hand if the person you heard that from was a cop.
Seriously, the police in this state need to be educated on this very simple fact. And so does everyone else, so listen closely:
The term "no fault" has NOTHING to do with liability. Typically in an accident, SOMEONE is at fault in an accident. And what always amazed me was that even after I had written a check to someone, that person would be saying something about "no fault" and "he's not going to pay because this is a "no fault" state."
OK, seriously, then, why are we talking and what insurance company is listed on that check in your hot little hand?
And that was the situation during the claim that I mentioned. As soon as I sat down with the customers to discuss their injury claim and mentioned "No-fault", the guy ducked his head, clasped his hands together and said in a low, gruff voice, "I'm just telling you right now, I'm going to FIGHT THIS!"
I took a deep breath. He wouldn't make eye contact with me, so I mildly told him that he had nothing to fight. I pointed out that there was a rental in their driveway and I was paying the bill. And would pay the bill on the accident-related repairs. It was a done deal. What was he fighting?
He finally looked up after that.
This is very simple, actually. "No-fault" simply means that, if you are involved in an accident AND you are injured, you MUST go trough your OWN insurance company to cover your MEDICAL expenses. You're paying premium on that, and utilizing the benefits DOES NOT affect your insurance rates. EVEN IF you're a PASSENGER in someone else's car and you're injured, regardless of who is at fault in the accident, you MUST call your own insurance company and report an injury-only claim.
No-fault, then, applies ONLY to injuries.
Now, if you are driving someone else's car or you are a passenger in that car, and you don't have your own car/insurance, then the car you are in will cover your medical bills. Again, this is no detriment to the policyholder. This is Minnesota State Law, and the law was designed to protect people.
There's more to say about injury claims, but it's best to discuss liability first.
LIABILITY
Liability basically means "negligent". There is always a question; who is negligent in a given loss?
What if you spin out on icy roads and hit the guard rail? Well, it's car vs. immovable object. YOU'RE at fault for driving too fast and failing to maintain control. Don't argue about the fact it's icy....in that same area, while you sat there stuck to the mangled rail, waiting for a tow truck, countless cars passed you safely, didn't they? Without crashing.
OK, what if a deer jumps out in front of you and ends up bashing into your fender?
You are NOT at fault (unless you happen to be a Foxworthy-type redneck and you were in the ditch HUNTING the deer using your car as a weapon). Seriously, deer hits are handled under comprehensive coverage, not collision, and there is no liability to you.
In the event of more than one vehicle, often liability (who is negligent) is very clear; such as when a car is stopped at a red light and another car fails to stop, resulting in a rear-end collision.
Intersection accidents can be trickier; if coming from opposing directions, SOMEONE had a red light or a stop sign, or in the event of an uncontrolled intersection, someone didn't yield in accordance with the law.
Yes, there are laws that govern uncontrolled intersections.
Anyway, now I must introduce another term, which applies under Minnesota State Law:
COMPARATIVE NEGLIGENCE
This means that BOTH or ALL drivers can SHARE in the cause of the accident. Keep in mind... "comp neg" doesn't always apply. But sometimes it does. Take the example of an intersection accident, especially if it is uncontrolled. Both drivers approach the intersection, neither sees each other and neither looks to see if anyone is coming, so they collide in the center. Both are at fault. Was one car going faster than the limit? What if one driver had a stop sign and the other didn't, and the guy with a stop sign ran it? Well, that doesn't automatically excuse the other driver. What if that other "innocent" driver saw the car coming and "assumed" that, since he had a sign, that he was going to stop?
Well, there's comp neg. That "innocent" driver is at least 10% at fault for failing to take evasive action.
I'm not going to define every scenario, and I HATED making comp neg decisons. HATED IT.
But here's a fact that a lot of people like to ignore; they often complain about insurance companies paying only 80 or 90% of a claim, and say idiotic things like: "You're 10% at fault for just BEING there!"
FALSE, FALSE, FALSE!
If you are illegally parked and your car is unattended and gets hit BECAUSE it was parked so strangely and in a location clearly marked for no parking, THEN you could be 10-30% at fault for BEING there even if you weren't in the car and driving at the time.
Other than that....no. If your car is legally parked and a drunk swipes it some night, you're not at fault. Even if your insurance company has to pay because the other car/driver can't be identified, it doesn't change the fact that you are not liable in that case.
The other complaint about insurance companies and comp neg: People blame the insurance company fr the comparatie negligence law. The reality is that this is not something made up by or for insurance companies. It's a STATE LAW. The insurance company has to ABIDE by it. So don't blame the insurance company if you are held liable for something you did wrong, which also has to be cited. List your vice: inattention, speed (by the way, it's on the books that speeding negates right-of-way), etc.
JOINT AND SEVERAL LIABILITY
When I started, the "Joint and Several" law was something I didn't understand, until I had to handle a claim involving it.
At the time, the law stated that, (in the event of a multi-vehicle or other property accident), if you are more than 15% at fault, then you can be held responsible for 100% of the damages. WHEW!
Keep in mind, this is no longer the law, and I will explain the change after I explain the scenario which only makes sense under the old law.
Here's what happened:
Car A was sitting in traffic, waiting for the light to turn. He was far back from the light. It was a divided highway, separated by a grassy median, no fence, and the southbound side was flowing freely.
Car A happened to glance in the mirror and saw a black car coming towards him, not slowing down. He KNEW that he was going to get hit and pushed into the car ahead of him. He cranked his wheel to the left, bracing for impact, hoping that the impact with the turned wheel would drive him into the median and alongside traffic so he could avoid hitting the car in front of him. He also touched his gas pedal just before impact, hoping to ultimately avoid being hit. Thus, at the time of impact, he was both steering his car TOO FAR to the left AND giving the car a little gas.
I actually commend his very quick thinking, and had he had more time, it could have worked.
As it was, it didn't. Car B hit him, and because he had turned his wheel TOO FAR to his left, AND because of the hard impact and even the small acceleration he gave his car, Vehicle A literally SAILED over the grassy median, airborne, and T-boned a car in the southbound lane.
The southbound car couldn't have done ANYTHING to avoid the accident. Who could have seen THAT coming?
The driver of Car A stated to me that he felt that the driver of Car C was fully innocent. He believed that Car B was 100% responsible for the accident. The driver of Car C ALSO agreed that Car A was innocent, and felt that Car B was 100% at fault for causing the rear-end collision.
I as the rep for Car C agreed, (Call me Company C), the rep for A agreed, and we both tried to find the company for Car B.
I can't remember, but I do think I got a statement from Driver B. She first told us she'd get her insurance info...she was later to admit that she did not have insurance on her vehicle at the time of the loss.
Well, that left 2 very seriously damaged vehicle, and 2 companies who agreed neither was actually at fault in the loss. In other words, the proximate cause of the entire accident was Car B, and we would have difficulty collecting from this individual who had no insurance.
That's where joint & several came in.
I hated to do it, but I finally understood what it meant. The reality was that Driver A HAD made errors that caused him to sail over the median. Ironically, if he'd not tried to do anything, he would have been 100% innocent.
Unfortunately, it was his evasive actions that caused him to crash into my customer. Would he have hit her if he hadn't been rearended so hard? No. But under this law, he was more than 15% at fault for my customer's damage...and so we sent a subrogation (insurance term for collection) claim against that company.
Remember, we didn't make the law. And it is the Subro department that ultimately determines whether joint & several apply...and it did.
Now, as I understand it, that did not mean that the driver of Car A was HIMSELF 100% liable for the loss...he was 15-20% liable for MY CUSTOMER'S loss, and had Car B had insurance, we would NEVER have brought a claim against his company. And that's exactly what was going on..we were bringing the claim against the company.
That company, then, would be responsible for collection of all of the damages from the actual at-fault party. But first they had to pay us. And as I recall, the claim went to arbitration and Company A had to pay us.
NOW...in August of 2005, I believe, that law changed.
As it stands, now, only if you can be held 50 or 51% (I think it's the latter) liable for a loss, you can be held responsible for 100%. Therefore, in the case I cited, if it happened now, Company A would NOT have been subrogatable. So, this was a change in the law which is greatly beneficial for the average person whose evasive moves go weirly awry.
OTHER LIABILITY LAWS AND ISSUES
When I first began my job, my company sent me to another state to learn the generalities of policies everywhere. So I learned that some states have laws that make you pay for the percentage you are at fault. So if you are 30% at fault, you pay for 30% of the damages (in a multi-vehicle accident).
I don't remember much about that stuff as I promptly forgot about it since it didn't apply in my state and we don't handle out of state claims.
However, thare are some general things all people, at least in Minnesota (and check the laws in your own state) should know:
If you are involve in a multi-rear-end collision, and you are car 4 out of 7, your claim is against the guy who hit everyone so hard so as to involve 7 vehicles. You cannot collect against the guy immediately to your rear...he wouldn't have hit you unless he was pushed into you. UNLESS it was one of those rare situations where he hit you first, and then another idiot hit everyone harder and the first guy was pushed into you again. And in that case, the "chain breaks.
And likewise, then you'r not liable for the damages of the person ahead of you.
HOWEVER, TAKE NOTE! In a multi-vehicle crash, get EVERYONE'S INFORMATION! Get license plates, car make/model/year, insurance company and policy, driver's name, DL#, some kind of phone number, some address (even work), etc. Get everyone...your insurance company needs all of it in order to make a proper liablity decision and collect from the correct company. AND, plan to go through your own company and pay your deductible. It will save you time and get you back on the road.
I can understand not giving out your own info, but many people have cell phones, use work addresses, or in the case of law enforcement, use the police to do a "driver exchange" form. In the case of my recent accident, I gave the guy one of my business cards. I was NOT going to hand him my home # and address.
BODILY INJURY CLAIMS
In Minnesota, under the No-fault laws, you MAY still have a bodily injury claim. There are "thresholds" that apply:
* $4,000+ in treatment (does not include diagnostic tests such as MRI's)
* Death - your family collects.
* Dismemberment - in the former, your family collects. In the latter, it's evaluated based on what has been dismembered, long-term prognosis, etc.
* Severe injury - if you have broken bones or scarring, you have a BI Claim.
This differs from "Tort" states, where you'll see on your policy the term "Medpay $5,000" In Tort states, if you are injured, from the moment you or your insurance company spends $1.00 as a result, you have a bodily injury claim.
In this regard, No-fault is a bad thing...it's why PI attorneys are so rampant here. They will literally counsel their clients to run up treatment bills at chiropractors so they'll reach a $4,000 threshold, qualifying for the BI claim, which the attorney will then get paid to settle for you.
Now, a lot of people think they have to get attorneys to handle their claims. And they LOVE to use attorneys as a threat against an insurance company for ANY conflict in a claim, injury or property damage only.
So, I gotta tell ya...that's not a threat. I LOVED it when people got attorneys. First of all, it meant that the claim went buh-bye to the Casualty unit. (That's a definition I forgot earlier...they specialize in massive injury and litigation, also separated by sub-specialties. So they handled all attorney-repped claims). Anyway, often I also LOVED dealing with the attorney of an injured party because then I could get things done like settle the total loss with the attorney, who knew market values and wouldn't ask for $5,000 for a car worth $500 and claimed as a "show car" from 1979.
A claim is not handled differently if an attorney steps in; the only thing that changes is that all correspondance goes through the attorney. And sometimes clients did not understand this and would call to speak to the rep. We COULDN'T answer their questions without their attorney being on the line, so we'd have to either try to reach the attorney or have the person call the attorney to call us for the answers. What a ridiculous system. But we didn't create it; we had to follow it so as to avoid any accusation of manipulating the client or other such thing in the attorney's favor.
Also, an attorney will charge 30-40% of the settlement. And the settlement offer evaluates only the individual's injuries, prognosis, "pain and suffering", and other things, NOT the amount the attorney is taking off the top. So, people who do not get an attorney get paid more.
Now, I also realize that some companies don't follow an ethical code. Some of my own trainers came from a company that did things incorrectly and skimped on settlements. That's why she left. And I also had co-workers involved in accidents and garner BI claims (one had cracked ribs and other injuries), and was offered a paltry amount. He took the offer to our casualty unit and they were SHOCKED at what that company was offering. My friend, by that time very well versed in what SHOULD be happening, at a professional level, tried to negotiate for himself. He ended up resorting to getting an attorney, one recommended by the Casualty reps.
So, there IS a place for attorneys, and contrary to popular opinion, the business relationship between companies and attorneys is NO one of animosity. There are exceptions, certainly, but overall, the attorneys I worked with were decent.
TANGENT
I didn't work with ANY attorneys in connection to injuries - it wasn't my job. But I DID have clients get attorneys when they realized that we were investigating them for fraud. Thus, my conversations with those attorneys were very guarded, yet cordial. We knew one another's positions, and the main point of our contact was keeping updated, passing documentation back and forth, making and answering demands.
In the beginning, this intimidated me somewhat. After awhile, I got used to it and even though we "opposed" each other, our conversations were very friendly.
One in particular, just before I quit, was weird. I had inhereted a very old claim, very fraudulent, which had been closed for non-cooperation of the customer who refused to provide certain information. At first contact, the attorney was not formally representing the client, but was calling with him in his office, trying to understand the status of the claim, whether it had been denied or not, and if not, why not. He asked for a copy of the policy, which I provided. At the time, he was evaluating whether there was a case or not.
Well, he ended up taking the case. The attorney realized I was not the original file owner, realized that the file had to be gotten out of a remote location due to the fact it had been closed for a couple years, and we had a very candid conversation when I continued to stick to our position that Customer X needed to cooperate with a particular demand on our end. We could not continue our investigaion without it.
Well, during that conversation where the attorney stated that he was moving to litigation if we did not provide a certain thing by a certain date 5 days down the road, and we both realized that we were not going to cave (our own case was very strong). As it was, I also had to reveal to the attorney that, yet again, the file was being assiged because I was leaving my position. I defined to him what I was doing in the meantime to meet the demands that I could and set an expectation as to when the newly assigned rep could contact him. I also told him I'd have my manager reassign the file ASAP so the new rep could review the file.
Well, that attorney and I by then had gotten to know each other, and so he asked me why I was leaving? To go to school, make a career change, etc. He wished me luck...as it turned out, he'd gone to the Lutheran Seminary some years ago, and truly valued the experience although he determined he was not called to be a Pastor, but to the practice of Law.
It was fascinating, and I must say, a great way to end my business relationship with an opposing attorney!
So! Although this may seem to be anti-attorney, I must say that they are necessary in some cases, they fulfill a role, but they are not necessary in ALL cases. And they DO turn some clients down.
I've also had attorneys as my own customers and found them to be some of the best because they knew how things worked so it was very easy to proceed and get things accomplished.
OK, end of THAT tanget. And my fingers are tired from typing.
There will be further posts on the topic of women and body/repair shops, not just involving my work in insurance, but also as a customer. But for now...let's just go with what we have, shall we?
And again...please don't use the combox as a form for airing grievances, please don't name any companies or persons. I'm providing this info for your education so that YOU can be more informed. If you are in another state, some of the above may differ via state law, via company (if the info was company-specific). And I'm willing to answer any questions I am able.
And I'm already remembering why I was so burned out and why I quit that job.
Auto Insurance
This is the 2nd installment on my Auto Insurance and Repair series.
I worked in auto insurance so, while I also handled a few other things on occasion, I am not an "expert" in those matters so I am limiting this discussion to auto insurance only.
AGENTS AND BROKERS
A lot of people are just endeared to and in love with their agents, because they think their agents are in charge of everything, right down to getting paid for the claim. They think this often because the agent gives them that impression. It's called "salesmanship", which isn't always entirely honest. But it sure did work to sell you the policy and make you think he or she is god, did it?
So, first myth debunked - The job of your agent is to sell you your policy, explain general terms of the policy to help you understand that you have a deductible, etc. This is a VERY IMPORTANT service, because I've had customers whose agent either did not clearly explain things, or at the very least, make sure the customer understood.
Agents can indeed step in to help resolve matters or clarify issues between an adjuster and the customer, however, they have absolutely NO AUTHORITY over the adjuster. The adjuster does not work out of the agent's office. The adjuster has a totally different supervisor in a totally different department and geographical location. There MAY be some exceptions to this, but offhand, I can't think of any in all of my dealings with companies all over the country, large and small.
I will discuss agents and claims in more detail at a later point.
Keep in mind that SOME agents are licensed to sell only ONE companie's insurance, and so that agent may become pretty well versed in the policy terms. However, there are many agents out there who are licensed to sell insurance for several companies, in which case they actually DON'T know the differences and similarities in a policy.
I was actually surprised when I learned this. There was a dispute with a customer who had misunderstood his policy...but that's because he hadn't read it. The agent hadn't read it either, and confessed that he DID NOT HAVE A COPY of our policy! I asked how that could be? And he explained the above...they sell the policies, but they don't know the changes or differences, it's impossible to read and know all the policies they sell, etc etc. Now, I can tell you that my company had the policy online in a database accessable to agents and adjusters alike, but it's possible not all companies function in that manner.
So...that knowledge was very helpful to me as an adjuster when people said that their agent couldn't explain those details of the policy. Nor, really is it the job of the agent to do this.
Remember...when you purchase a policy and give your signature, you are signing a legal contract, that you understand the terms of the contract. And in a policy, there is a section of clearly laid out exclusions. Also, under "Collision" and "Comprehensive", etc., it also lays out what is covered. If something is not mentioned...it's not covered. Check for other coverages. For example, "Rental" is not necessarily included under Comprehensive. SOME companies include this; others do not. This is a VERY IMPORTANT difference which requires you to READ your policy. Reading up front could save you massive headaches and misundersandings later.
Know what it is that you are purchasing from your agent. If nothing happens to your car, then it may not matter. But don't rest on your laurels, ever...that's when the world turns upside-down.
One important detail about agents in relation to claims: If your claim is at-fault, the agent may be reluctant to take it down. Why? Because those losses are a detriment to the agent. They are self-employed, and there's all sorts of things that involve an agent's overhead. They don't even want to take your claim down if you are NOT at fault, because they don't want the company to pay you...they want the other company to pay you. So they'll tell you to wait, which is a HUGE disservice to you especially if the other guy doesn't have insurance, if there is a problem with his insurance, if something on his claim needs to be investigated, etc. So don't EVER let an agent tell you not to report a claim.
I will have to discuss fault and liablity in another post.
CLAIMS ADJUSTERS
Claims adjusters work en-mass out of a Dilbert-like environment involving cubicles that look a lot like ice trays from afar. There are different titles and types of adjusters, so here are a few:
Generalists handle anything and everything (within auto) which may be defined, expanded, or limited in scope by the company. When I started as a generalist, it meant that I was the sole contact on the claim. I spoke with all parties, I inspected the cars and wrote estimates, I negotiated with the shops, and I settled Bodily Injury claims (minor ones). There are also Generalists in the Injury unit (will define this further later), and they specialize in handling the medical portions of auto claims. While I worked for the company, the generalist positions changed a bit, although I can't speak to the medical side very much as I was not involved in that unit. However, on the property damage side of the coin, several reps were forced, in addition to their property damage and liability investigation workload, to take on certain injury claims as well, meaning that that portion of the claim would remain with them, not be referred to a med rep specialists.
You may hear the terms "Inside Rep" and "Outside Rep", or terms similar to that. Some companies hire adjusters who work only in the office, making calls, taking statements, determining liability. The outside reps are those who drive around all day writing estimates and negotiating with shops. Of course they work closely with the inside reps.
Some companies do not assign a claim to an individual, but rather, have a team approach. A batch of claims is sent to a particular team, perhaps consistent with a particular specialty. Anyone on that team is responsible for the resolution of the claim.
Claims Investigators, which is what I was for the last four years, deals with specialized types of claims. This title and position would vary from company to company, so be aware of this. Sometimes generalists handle the high-fraud claims, but in my company, those were passed to a group of investigators. My job in that unit was the same as before, however, it was far more complex. Each claim required further investigation to rule out fraud (which is what usually happened). In that case, the claim was handled like any other, although with a few extra steps on our end, which were explained to the customer. Most customers understood this especially when it was explained up front, some chose to argue, anyway. On occasion red flags were all over the place which caused us to launch a full investigation, involving forensic experts, criminal record searches, requesting financial documents, etc. Whatever was proper. Not all of the same things were requested on all files; our scope was limited to the concerns we had. If in the process of a full investigation fraud was ruled out, we ended the investigation and resolved the claim. If it was not resolved, we continued until the questions were answered. I am not going to go into great detail on these investigations because I'd rather not teach someone how to committ fraud.
To anyone who has a claim that does go into a fuller investigation - don't worry. Cooperate, provide what you are asked to provide, realize this is happening for a reason, and the investigator will HAVE to, at the proper time, address particular questions to you regarding the concerns. However, no, you don't have a right to the documentation being obtained in the process of the investigation. There are some things you can obtain at a later date, but in the course of the investigation, nothing is released.
Also...in Minnesota, there is a law that allows insurance companies to obtain information from other companies. It's an immunity law that protects adjusters from being accused of "bad faith" if they are requesting info otherwise deemed as "private", but for the use of ruling out fraud.
Every claim you have goes on record at the National Insurance Crime Bureau. And investigators have access to this information. And the NICB can also request copies of the investigative files of the insurance company in question if an issue falls under their umbrella. This is a fairly rare occurrance and doesn't happen to people who are on the up-and-up.
Special Investigators are yet another category. They are not adjusters, but pure investigation. They canvass neighborhoods, they go to court houses and look up records, they view videos of crime scenes with the police, they are in charge of obtaining statements in person, or in some cases, of conducting depositions. (My company used attorneys to conduct depositions). I worked with someone who had formerly been in a specialized unit of US Customs, Secret Service, another was ex-Chicago Homicide. That's where retired Feds go---to work for the insurance companies in investigating fraud. And they could do amazing things both because of their professional contacts and professional experience. I'll tell you right now I'd never want to sit across the table and be grilled by one of these people!
I worked very closely with them, though, and in the beginning, that was my career goal. But I got worn out and saw the punishment they took in form of workload and realized that I wanted nothing to do with it. Also, I realized I hated cars with a passion and didn't want to spend my career dealing with fraud and cars. The very thought made me tired. You would NOT believe the amount of travel these people would have to do and the hours they had to put into their jobs. No, thank you.
And to be fair, I also came into contact with a few SIU reps who were not up to par, and they literally WRECKED investigations with their incompetence.
No field is complete without the Incompetent.
OK, this post is really long, and there's more to say, so let's just end here at definitions. If something comes up that I didn't define, I'll edit to include it.
SOME GENERAL INFORMATION:
if you do have specific questions and you have a claim, the BEST person to ask is your adjuster because they're the only ones who know what is going on with your claim. Your Agent does not have access to the claim itself. They might have access to some limited information, but don't call your agent to find out what the adjuster is doing. They can't answer that. Don't call your agent to find out how long it's going to take to fix your car. The agent doesn't know.
Depending on the system the company is using, the Adjuster or maybe a contact at the Repair Facility will answer your questions specifically. However, in the context of a CLAIM specifically, your adjuster is the person to tell you who to contact for what, IF said adjuster isn't the person for all of it.
One of my biggest frustrations was that people would not call me if they had questions, or if they did call, they didn't leave a message. I was ALWAYS on the phone when I was in the office, and the rest of the time, I was out of the office. So I couldn't always be there to answer the phone. But I checked messages from the field when I had a moment, and I returned calls as soon as I was able. But some people wouldn't reach me and just assumed I wasn't "doing anything." And they'd call their agent, who WOULD actually leave a message. Often with attitude.
I ignored agents with attitude. Sometimes I'd call them back in a timely manner, but the agent isn't my customer. If I knew who the agent was calling about (ie if they told me the name of the customer), usually it was a customer I'd been trying to reach so just tried to reach them again. The agent RARELY did anything to assist on a claim. Instead, they were usually just responding to a customer complaint, which usually had something to do with the policy, not the service. And so I'd explain to the agent EXACTLY what I'd told the customer. And then maybe the agent would explain it again to the customer. Or just say "Oh" and drop the attitude.
And then there were times when the customer would throw the agent under the bus for something. Or the agent would throw the customer under the us. Or the adjuster. Those times were always great fun for all.
My favorite was the agents who tried to tell me how to do my job. And I would explain my job to them, and define theirs to them (ie...I'll do my job and you do yours), and then I'd end up faxing a particular portion of the policy to the agent.
Some agents were awesome, and were indispensible in resolving customer disputes. Those agents admitted if they didn't know the policy in question, took time to learn the process and understand both what we were doing and what the customer was doing, and even helped to resolve total losses. I LOVED those agents, can still name some of them, and really wish ALL agents were like them. Working WITH the agents was just awesome especially when a customer was confused, or just a difficult person.
So this post should be taken as a Pro-Good-Agent post. I LOVE good agents!
Next up: "No Fault" and Liability - What some people THINK it means versus what it REALLY means. It isn't even in the same ballpark with the mythology about it.
I would like to make one request - If you comment, pleas refrain from naming any insurance companies, whether your comment is positive or negative toward them. Secondly, please don't give a laundry list of insurance complaints. No one here is your broker, your adjuster, your agent, or anyone who can help you. There is more than one side to every story.
If you have questions with limited scope that can be answered, I'm happy to try to answer. I cannot address things that are specific to your claim or policy. I couldn't even do that when I was working in insurance because I'd have to look up each individual circumstance in light of the policy. And it's not always easy as you might think.
I worked in auto insurance so, while I also handled a few other things on occasion, I am not an "expert" in those matters so I am limiting this discussion to auto insurance only.
AGENTS AND BROKERS
A lot of people are just endeared to and in love with their agents, because they think their agents are in charge of everything, right down to getting paid for the claim. They think this often because the agent gives them that impression. It's called "salesmanship", which isn't always entirely honest. But it sure did work to sell you the policy and make you think he or she is god, did it?
So, first myth debunked - The job of your agent is to sell you your policy, explain general terms of the policy to help you understand that you have a deductible, etc. This is a VERY IMPORTANT service, because I've had customers whose agent either did not clearly explain things, or at the very least, make sure the customer understood.
Agents can indeed step in to help resolve matters or clarify issues between an adjuster and the customer, however, they have absolutely NO AUTHORITY over the adjuster. The adjuster does not work out of the agent's office. The adjuster has a totally different supervisor in a totally different department and geographical location. There MAY be some exceptions to this, but offhand, I can't think of any in all of my dealings with companies all over the country, large and small.
I will discuss agents and claims in more detail at a later point.
Keep in mind that SOME agents are licensed to sell only ONE companie's insurance, and so that agent may become pretty well versed in the policy terms. However, there are many agents out there who are licensed to sell insurance for several companies, in which case they actually DON'T know the differences and similarities in a policy.
I was actually surprised when I learned this. There was a dispute with a customer who had misunderstood his policy...but that's because he hadn't read it. The agent hadn't read it either, and confessed that he DID NOT HAVE A COPY of our policy! I asked how that could be? And he explained the above...they sell the policies, but they don't know the changes or differences, it's impossible to read and know all the policies they sell, etc etc. Now, I can tell you that my company had the policy online in a database accessable to agents and adjusters alike, but it's possible not all companies function in that manner.
So...that knowledge was very helpful to me as an adjuster when people said that their agent couldn't explain those details of the policy. Nor, really is it the job of the agent to do this.
Remember...when you purchase a policy and give your signature, you are signing a legal contract, that you understand the terms of the contract. And in a policy, there is a section of clearly laid out exclusions. Also, under "Collision" and "Comprehensive", etc., it also lays out what is covered. If something is not mentioned...it's not covered. Check for other coverages. For example, "Rental" is not necessarily included under Comprehensive. SOME companies include this; others do not. This is a VERY IMPORTANT difference which requires you to READ your policy. Reading up front could save you massive headaches and misundersandings later.
Know what it is that you are purchasing from your agent. If nothing happens to your car, then it may not matter. But don't rest on your laurels, ever...that's when the world turns upside-down.
One important detail about agents in relation to claims: If your claim is at-fault, the agent may be reluctant to take it down. Why? Because those losses are a detriment to the agent. They are self-employed, and there's all sorts of things that involve an agent's overhead. They don't even want to take your claim down if you are NOT at fault, because they don't want the company to pay you...they want the other company to pay you. So they'll tell you to wait, which is a HUGE disservice to you especially if the other guy doesn't have insurance, if there is a problem with his insurance, if something on his claim needs to be investigated, etc. So don't EVER let an agent tell you not to report a claim.
I will have to discuss fault and liablity in another post.
CLAIMS ADJUSTERS
Claims adjusters work en-mass out of a Dilbert-like environment involving cubicles that look a lot like ice trays from afar. There are different titles and types of adjusters, so here are a few:
Generalists handle anything and everything (within auto) which may be defined, expanded, or limited in scope by the company. When I started as a generalist, it meant that I was the sole contact on the claim. I spoke with all parties, I inspected the cars and wrote estimates, I negotiated with the shops, and I settled Bodily Injury claims (minor ones). There are also Generalists in the Injury unit (will define this further later), and they specialize in handling the medical portions of auto claims. While I worked for the company, the generalist positions changed a bit, although I can't speak to the medical side very much as I was not involved in that unit. However, on the property damage side of the coin, several reps were forced, in addition to their property damage and liability investigation workload, to take on certain injury claims as well, meaning that that portion of the claim would remain with them, not be referred to a med rep specialists.
You may hear the terms "Inside Rep" and "Outside Rep", or terms similar to that. Some companies hire adjusters who work only in the office, making calls, taking statements, determining liability. The outside reps are those who drive around all day writing estimates and negotiating with shops. Of course they work closely with the inside reps.
Some companies do not assign a claim to an individual, but rather, have a team approach. A batch of claims is sent to a particular team, perhaps consistent with a particular specialty. Anyone on that team is responsible for the resolution of the claim.
Claims Investigators, which is what I was for the last four years, deals with specialized types of claims. This title and position would vary from company to company, so be aware of this. Sometimes generalists handle the high-fraud claims, but in my company, those were passed to a group of investigators. My job in that unit was the same as before, however, it was far more complex. Each claim required further investigation to rule out fraud (which is what usually happened). In that case, the claim was handled like any other, although with a few extra steps on our end, which were explained to the customer. Most customers understood this especially when it was explained up front, some chose to argue, anyway. On occasion red flags were all over the place which caused us to launch a full investigation, involving forensic experts, criminal record searches, requesting financial documents, etc. Whatever was proper. Not all of the same things were requested on all files; our scope was limited to the concerns we had. If in the process of a full investigation fraud was ruled out, we ended the investigation and resolved the claim. If it was not resolved, we continued until the questions were answered. I am not going to go into great detail on these investigations because I'd rather not teach someone how to committ fraud.
To anyone who has a claim that does go into a fuller investigation - don't worry. Cooperate, provide what you are asked to provide, realize this is happening for a reason, and the investigator will HAVE to, at the proper time, address particular questions to you regarding the concerns. However, no, you don't have a right to the documentation being obtained in the process of the investigation. There are some things you can obtain at a later date, but in the course of the investigation, nothing is released.
Also...in Minnesota, there is a law that allows insurance companies to obtain information from other companies. It's an immunity law that protects adjusters from being accused of "bad faith" if they are requesting info otherwise deemed as "private", but for the use of ruling out fraud.
Every claim you have goes on record at the National Insurance Crime Bureau. And investigators have access to this information. And the NICB can also request copies of the investigative files of the insurance company in question if an issue falls under their umbrella. This is a fairly rare occurrance and doesn't happen to people who are on the up-and-up.
Special Investigators are yet another category. They are not adjusters, but pure investigation. They canvass neighborhoods, they go to court houses and look up records, they view videos of crime scenes with the police, they are in charge of obtaining statements in person, or in some cases, of conducting depositions. (My company used attorneys to conduct depositions). I worked with someone who had formerly been in a specialized unit of US Customs, Secret Service, another was ex-Chicago Homicide. That's where retired Feds go---to work for the insurance companies in investigating fraud. And they could do amazing things both because of their professional contacts and professional experience. I'll tell you right now I'd never want to sit across the table and be grilled by one of these people!
I worked very closely with them, though, and in the beginning, that was my career goal. But I got worn out and saw the punishment they took in form of workload and realized that I wanted nothing to do with it. Also, I realized I hated cars with a passion and didn't want to spend my career dealing with fraud and cars. The very thought made me tired. You would NOT believe the amount of travel these people would have to do and the hours they had to put into their jobs. No, thank you.
And to be fair, I also came into contact with a few SIU reps who were not up to par, and they literally WRECKED investigations with their incompetence.
No field is complete without the Incompetent.
OK, this post is really long, and there's more to say, so let's just end here at definitions. If something comes up that I didn't define, I'll edit to include it.
SOME GENERAL INFORMATION:
if you do have specific questions and you have a claim, the BEST person to ask is your adjuster because they're the only ones who know what is going on with your claim. Your Agent does not have access to the claim itself. They might have access to some limited information, but don't call your agent to find out what the adjuster is doing. They can't answer that. Don't call your agent to find out how long it's going to take to fix your car. The agent doesn't know.
Depending on the system the company is using, the Adjuster or maybe a contact at the Repair Facility will answer your questions specifically. However, in the context of a CLAIM specifically, your adjuster is the person to tell you who to contact for what, IF said adjuster isn't the person for all of it.
One of my biggest frustrations was that people would not call me if they had questions, or if they did call, they didn't leave a message. I was ALWAYS on the phone when I was in the office, and the rest of the time, I was out of the office. So I couldn't always be there to answer the phone. But I checked messages from the field when I had a moment, and I returned calls as soon as I was able. But some people wouldn't reach me and just assumed I wasn't "doing anything." And they'd call their agent, who WOULD actually leave a message. Often with attitude.
I ignored agents with attitude. Sometimes I'd call them back in a timely manner, but the agent isn't my customer. If I knew who the agent was calling about (ie if they told me the name of the customer), usually it was a customer I'd been trying to reach so just tried to reach them again. The agent RARELY did anything to assist on a claim. Instead, they were usually just responding to a customer complaint, which usually had something to do with the policy, not the service. And so I'd explain to the agent EXACTLY what I'd told the customer. And then maybe the agent would explain it again to the customer. Or just say "Oh" and drop the attitude.
And then there were times when the customer would throw the agent under the bus for something. Or the agent would throw the customer under the us. Or the adjuster. Those times were always great fun for all.
My favorite was the agents who tried to tell me how to do my job. And I would explain my job to them, and define theirs to them (ie...I'll do my job and you do yours), and then I'd end up faxing a particular portion of the policy to the agent.
Some agents were awesome, and were indispensible in resolving customer disputes. Those agents admitted if they didn't know the policy in question, took time to learn the process and understand both what we were doing and what the customer was doing, and even helped to resolve total losses. I LOVED those agents, can still name some of them, and really wish ALL agents were like them. Working WITH the agents was just awesome especially when a customer was confused, or just a difficult person.
So this post should be taken as a Pro-Good-Agent post. I LOVE good agents!
Next up: "No Fault" and Liability - What some people THINK it means versus what it REALLY means. It isn't even in the same ballpark with the mythology about it.
I would like to make one request - If you comment, pleas refrain from naming any insurance companies, whether your comment is positive or negative toward them. Secondly, please don't give a laundry list of insurance complaints. No one here is your broker, your adjuster, your agent, or anyone who can help you. There is more than one side to every story.
If you have questions with limited scope that can be answered, I'm happy to try to answer. I cannot address things that are specific to your claim or policy. I couldn't even do that when I was working in insurance because I'd have to look up each individual circumstance in light of the policy. And it's not always easy as you might think.
Saturday, January 05, 2008
The Swiss Shepherd
Tonight I picked up my flute again, and because the music was in my head, and has always been in my heart, I picked up, "The Swiss Shepherd" by P. Morlacchi. And played it.
Badly.
I still remember the first time I heard this piece; I was so entranced that I knew that I MUST possess it and perform it...perfectly. It spoke to me of haunting beauty, of lilting laughter, of running water, and effortless amusement.
So today, although it was halting, I played the music, I stuttered, I stopped, I repeated passages, I omitted the highest notes because I couldn't figure out what they were, but more importantly....I REMEMBERED a great deal. Or, at least, my fingers and memory working together remembered the runs, the trills, the arpeggios, and the grace notes. There was staccato and triplets to keep me moving. It was an ongoing adventure as I remembered this music, and still fought to play it.
I don't think the flute is a lost cause for me. Playing "The Swiss Shepherd" has in fact reminded me of the pure joy of the music. While my embouchure is in terrible shape, meaning my transitions are sloppy and occasionally squeaky, moving to low notes is "windy", and occasionally I'm sloppy with the breath support, there seems to be some hope even there. But Don't REALLY get me started on my embouchure. [For non-flute players, "embouchure" means: "The application of the lips to the mouthpiece of a wind instrument, and the position of muscles, lips, jaws, and teeth necessary to hold that position. In French, this also means the mouthpiece itself"]. It really is quite depressing, in spite of a glimmer of hope.
But as I played, even though it was no longer effortless, I detected that same sweetness that used to be there. It is dusty from lack of use, but a little polish and some spit-shine should make it work. The indescribable beauty of music well-played speaks volumes...and the fact that even a tiny glint of that mercurial edge of the occasional pure note still trembles like a crystalline snowflake even from my instrument...well....I'm speechless.
I still remember when my music teacher/church choir director placed this score in front of me, knowing how much I desired to play it. I'd been BEGGING her for this music. So one evening she placed it on the stand and I IMMEDIATELY began to play, struggling through the passages, pushing on, desiring so much to possess it that the mistakes I was making did not deter me.
Not longer after I began, my teacher snatched it off the stand and told me, "Not yet! You're not ready."
I wasn't ready. She was right.
She didn't give it back to me for another year or so, and to this day I am thankful for her vigilance. Had I tried to play it when I wasn't ready, I would have garnered bad habits, I would have gotten frustrated that I could not play it like she did, and in the end, I would have hated the experience and the score would have lost its shine. She knew this piece for what it was; my own personal Holy Grail. My Unicorn. My Pearl of great price.
Instead, she made me build up the necessary skills for that piece, which covers the entire range of abilities. Her goal was to emphasize my strengths and build up my weaknesses, knowing that, in light of what she knew I desired to perform, it would be best to use it as the goal and reward.
Indeed, I took this piece to State competetion my Senior year of High School...and Starred. It was a flawless performance. I also performed it for the Arts Banquet (I believe I still have the program), and for my audition for the Big Nine (our conference) Band. Well, I didn't succeed at the latter, but it was my sight reading that took me out, not that score!
Tonight, I called a friend of mine who happens to be the director of a local school orchestra. And she also plays violin in a community orchestra. I didn't reach her directly, but asked her if she knows of any good, inexpensive flute instructors, especially those versed in sacred music. (Seriously...I MUST have a goal here!). And if not...if she'd be willing to help me out. She expressed in the past that she doesn't know a lot about the flute, but I found my fingering chart and she could likely assist me with basic musical and disciplinary points.
So...I really do want to play again. Practice used to be a great way to relieve stress, because I could let myself go especially with music I knew well. In the beginning it will be very difficult, but perhaps I can once again attain the expertise I once enjoyed. And perhaps, yet, God has use for my flute? Could it be? Even after so many years?
Friday, January 04, 2008
Women, Insurance, and the Automotive Industry
This is a Public Service Announcement(PSA) / Long Post Alert (LPA)/ and First In A Series (FIAS)
[Please also check out Uncle Jim's post on this topic.]
I grew up hearing it. We all did, and some of us have had horrible experiences with cars and shops, verifying what we grew up hearing; that women are taken advantage of in mechanical and body shops. Women are stupid when it comes to cars, and insurance, and repairs.
While I won't say that's NOT true, I'm also not going to throw out a blanket endorsement of this perspective. Why? Because for the last 5 years, I was inside this industry.
And if there's anyone "lower" than a woman when it comes to cars, it's a claims adjuster. And it's not about the individual adjuster; it's about the company that's paying the bills.
Here's the reality: there are so many myths about how insurance works, how mechanical shops work, and how body shops work, especially in relation to women, that it's impossible to keep it all straight.
In this post, I'm going to address the basic mythology and answer according to the reality I saw and lived. My experience encompasses my own personal examples, my contacts with the investigation of accidents, damages, thefts, and fires, my own experience in estimating damages, and finally, my likewise extensive experience in dealing with shops.
The basic mythology goes like this:
1. Women get "taken" every time they go to a shop because they don't know anything about cars, and the shops know this so they take advantage.
Shops don't take "advantage" of women who don't know better. No more so than men who don't know any better. And it's actually men who impede legitimate repairs more often than women, because, in my experience, men are more likely than women to hold onto the myths, (out of a distorted sense of "machismo") as opposed to women, who were willing to be educated and could verify the information provided via various independent sources. So men...watch out and don't be so cocky. Listen to reason. Women...just use your heads as you always do and don't look to your men to direct you.
I don't mean to bash men, because it is knowledgeable men who have taught me by word and example all of the above.
2. If a man handles a dispute with the insurance company or body shop, it will be resolved.
Um...no. To suggest such a thing is completely demeaning to both men and women. Do you realize that it is women who are especially gifted in negotiation? In certain native communities in Mexico, in the event of, say, a vehicle accident, the women take over. Why? Because the men tend to let their emotions get into the mix and that leads to a fight. Women can negotiate with other women, because we have the ability to connect at a very personal level, and dissociate ourselves from the extension of manhood that most people refer to as their respective transportation. So women make the arrangements and take care of getting things fixed.
In America, things are different, because men like to fix things. Unfortunately, they don't get to fix things because so many of them are accountants or executives, or manicurists, and so have no idea, exactly, what a wrench or a gearbox looks like. And mention "master cylinder" and they look at the engine block! And don't even get me STARTED on the location of the rear differential!
The reality is that most men are no more knowledgeable about cars than women. The great era of the "muscle car" has passed, and the era of the metro-sexual male has actually coincided with the entrance of the androgynous female thanks to rabid feminism. This had led to a general lack of knowledge among both sexes when confronted with the great mystery of the mechanical workings and functional design of the average car or truck.
So typically, when a "male" steps in to "resolve" problems with an insurance company or a shop, he does so from a perspective of such total ignorance he does nothing other than reveal himself to be a complete fool. And his arguments are not based on knowledge of the subject matter at hand, but rather the common mythology that can be disproved through a simple vehicle diagram, record of part prices, the visual of broken parts, and calm conversation.
In other words...male or female, don't be a bully. The people on the other end of the phone are trying to help you and quoting mythology doesn't further your position and certainly doesn't do anything other than damage your dignity.
3. Insurance companies are out to screw everybody.
If I had even a penny for every time I heard that quote, I would have quit my job after the first year. Insurance companies don't care about you. They are a business. Therefore, they are out to screw only themselves. In capitalism, it's the ONLY way to survive. Look out for your own interests, but in the process, be sure to benefit others. The entire foundation of insurance is to make money by paying it out to other people, much like the credit card business. And both industries take HUGE losses every year, along with great profits. That's why people don't purchase a lot of stock in either...a bad climate or economic year is literally financial destruction. But were it not for such destruction, they would not be able to exist.
Let me give you the real scoop, from the inside: Insurance companies hire REAL PEOPLE. They are people like you and me, and those people are assigned to a particular job. If that person happens to be an agent, that agent's job is to sell you a policy in accordance with what you need. It is NOT that agent's job to explain the letter of the policy. It is YOUR job to READ your policy. Claims Adjusters are hired to fulfill various expectations, which often differ from company to company, or from various specialties. In my case, I was a "generalist" before I specialized. And the generalists in my company spoke with all parties of an accident, all witnesses, obtained police reports, inspected cars (as in writing estimates), determined liability, coordinated with shops and other insurance companies, wrote contentions if the claim went to arbitration, and put out "fires" that arose from day to day. Investigators do the same thing, but at their specialized level. There were also specialized adjusters who handed specifically mechanical issues at shops but had no part in liability determination.
Those people work REALLY HARD, they do their BEST in an industry that idolizes agents and ignores adjusters in their commercials, and in spite of being snubbed, they work hard to be sure their customers get what they need in as timely a manner as possible. And sometimes it isn't possible to get to everyone in a day, no matter WHAT the company advertises.
It's always the claims adjusters who are thrown under the bus when something goes wrong. And often, the problem is the fault of the agent or the shop. The adjuster, the average person's contact with an insurance company, in addition to everything else, is also a mediator, because the adjuster knows better than to throw the agent or the shop under the bus. Pitting people against each other actually makes everything more difficult for EVERYONE.
Besides...the adjuster is a person JUST LIKE YOU. He or she knows what it's like to have an accident, and they know that in our over indulgent society, timeliness and "need" are prized. Time is money.
That adjuster also knows that if they provide bad service to you, said adjuster is rated in numbers and "productivity" according to crazy standards. So to fail to meet YOUR expectations as a customer means that the adjuster is going to take a serious hit both in workload and in potentially losing his or her job. Ironically, the people who are the most helpful often are the first to burn out and lose their jobs...because they'd prefer to make their customer happy and serve all their needs rather than meet numbers established by financial analysts who have never done the job.
So...the next time you have a claim, imagine that your son or daughter is the person on the other end of the line. Yes, they have to follow the policy, no they are not out to "get" you, and if you work with them, they will bend over backwards to help you even if it takes extra time and lands their butt in sling with their boss.
4. Shops are out to screw everybody.
Um....no. Shops are out to make money, and screwing everybody is detrimental to ongoing income. They are out to build customer loyalty, and in my experience, they were more than happy to help me, as an adjuster, know what I was looking at. It was a mutual agreement...if I know what you're talking about, I can agree or disagree intelligently and we can have a discussion about what would be proper. Sometimes there's more than one way to go about things. Other times the right thing to do is concrete.
Oh, and if the manufacturer recommends something, it has to be done. That's a reality, especially when a warranty is on the line.
Seriously, there are only a few times when shops didn't listen to me, as a customer, and it was ALWAYS when I was throwing money at them. That's for a different post.
5. Men have no respect for the capacity of women to understand mechanical things.
Complete idiocy. I have to say that when I went to a shop and was honest in that I needed assistance in identifying mechanical parts, they were ALWAYS willing to help. Certainly, they got paid for their time, because my own management recognized that both for negotiation and part identification purposes, the shop deserves to be paid for their time. And no, I'm not a blonde. I'm not even attractive. But the shops were willing to help out professionally because they saw that I was sincere in trying to learn, and had enough knowledge so as to be able to speak somewhat intelligently, as well as recognize their own challenges in their business. It was also my job to work with the customer, without throwing the shop under the bus. They always appreciated that.
Perhaps in the past and maybe in some areas, it is customary to pass blame when something is going wrong, but it's much better, professionally, to own up to any errors and rather than focus on them, to discuss what all parties are doing to WORK TOGETHER to resolve the problem.
The automotive industry is male-dominated, no doubt. But I found most of the men I met on the job to be courteous, friendly, most were knowledgeable, most appreciated that a woman was present and was professional (they have no time for airheads).
Of the times that I was "screwed over" on the job, it had more to do with the company and the interests of the shop than it did with my female identity. That's another story, too, one that involves a family member voiding the warranty on a brand new car belonging to his neice so that he could get a chance to mess with the insurance company. (long story, but one that I need to write for you all.)
Seriously...don't follow this myth. Of course, if you choose to be ignorant, you will be taken advantage of. If you have some basic knowledge, even of your car's manual and recommended service provided by the manufacturer, you will overcome a great deal.
6. If my car has a warranty, I have to get it fixed at the dealership.
Completely, patently untrue. You very rarely HAVE to go to the Dealer for anything. If a given shop is equipped for the damage or repair in question, they can order the parts and do the work. There is a huge myth out there bullying people into thinking that they have to go the dealer in order to have access to manufacturer parts. Um....no. ANY shop can order ANY part. In fact, YOU can order manufacturer parts from home and fix your car yourself.
The warranty issues come in only via certification; a shop doing the work has to be certifiable via the warranty company. So if you know a great mechanical shop that is not a dealer, they can often check to see if the mechanical repair is via warranty, and file a warranty claim on your behalf. They certify the work as if the dealer did it.
Read my lips: the Dealership DOES NOT have the corner on the market in repairs.
In fact, the dealer usually costs you MORE to do the work.
This leads to another topic...
7. What about Aftermarket parts? Used Parts? Remanufactured Parts?
There are a few kinds of parts that can be used on your car, and it is regulated by state law.
In Minnesota, if it involves an insurance claim, if your car is less than 3 years old OR has 16,000 miles or less, then new OEM (Manufacturer) parts are the only things that can be used. You, as an owner, can request the use of other parts, but in the event of a claim, the insurance company can ONLY use those specific parts.
If the car has MORE than 16,000 miles and is older than 3 years, then used (the term LKQ) parts can also be utilized. These are parts from the same year vehicle or newer, and they can be used in an insurance claim without your permission, although they have to provide this information to you in the estimate.
Or, you can choose Aftermarket parts. Here's a dirty little industry secret that the Manufacturer doesn't want you to know:
Many of the parts sold as New/OEM with the manufacturer stamp on it are actually made to spec by other companies. So the manufacturer gets to mark it up with their brand name, even though Company X actually made them. That same company, Company X can sell that very same part, the very same specs, for the very same vehicle, at a greatly reduced cost because, say "FORD" or "CHEVY" or "BMW" isn't stamped on it. We call this an "Aftermarket" part even though it's the EXACT same part the dealer sells you with a marked up label!
Now, there are also aftermarket parts that involve cosmetics, air intakes, ground effects, rims, stereo systems, etc. that are NOT related to the dealer. So when discussing aftermarket parts, just be aware that this encompasses a lot, and is not necessarily the myth-driven idea of a "defective low-quality part".
In fact, if given the choice between used and aftermarket, I would choose aftermarket. Because, say, an aftermarket headlight is going to cover both the shop warranty and the warranty from whoever made the part. A used part carries only the shop warranty and, as indicated...it's used.
People...don't be so afraid of "aftermarket." Even if you have a factory warranty on your car. It won't void it unless the aftermarket part involves weird wiring or other issues. READ YOUR POLICIES!
This is getting long and I have SO MUCH more to say...so let's just say that there is more coming with regard to these topics.
[Please also check out Uncle Jim's post on this topic.]
I grew up hearing it. We all did, and some of us have had horrible experiences with cars and shops, verifying what we grew up hearing; that women are taken advantage of in mechanical and body shops. Women are stupid when it comes to cars, and insurance, and repairs.
While I won't say that's NOT true, I'm also not going to throw out a blanket endorsement of this perspective. Why? Because for the last 5 years, I was inside this industry.
And if there's anyone "lower" than a woman when it comes to cars, it's a claims adjuster. And it's not about the individual adjuster; it's about the company that's paying the bills.
Here's the reality: there are so many myths about how insurance works, how mechanical shops work, and how body shops work, especially in relation to women, that it's impossible to keep it all straight.
In this post, I'm going to address the basic mythology and answer according to the reality I saw and lived. My experience encompasses my own personal examples, my contacts with the investigation of accidents, damages, thefts, and fires, my own experience in estimating damages, and finally, my likewise extensive experience in dealing with shops.
The basic mythology goes like this:
1. Women get "taken" every time they go to a shop because they don't know anything about cars, and the shops know this so they take advantage.
Shops don't take "advantage" of women who don't know better. No more so than men who don't know any better. And it's actually men who impede legitimate repairs more often than women, because, in my experience, men are more likely than women to hold onto the myths, (out of a distorted sense of "machismo") as opposed to women, who were willing to be educated and could verify the information provided via various independent sources. So men...watch out and don't be so cocky. Listen to reason. Women...just use your heads as you always do and don't look to your men to direct you.
I don't mean to bash men, because it is knowledgeable men who have taught me by word and example all of the above.
2. If a man handles a dispute with the insurance company or body shop, it will be resolved.
Um...no. To suggest such a thing is completely demeaning to both men and women. Do you realize that it is women who are especially gifted in negotiation? In certain native communities in Mexico, in the event of, say, a vehicle accident, the women take over. Why? Because the men tend to let their emotions get into the mix and that leads to a fight. Women can negotiate with other women, because we have the ability to connect at a very personal level, and dissociate ourselves from the extension of manhood that most people refer to as their respective transportation. So women make the arrangements and take care of getting things fixed.
In America, things are different, because men like to fix things. Unfortunately, they don't get to fix things because so many of them are accountants or executives, or manicurists, and so have no idea, exactly, what a wrench or a gearbox looks like. And mention "master cylinder" and they look at the engine block! And don't even get me STARTED on the location of the rear differential!
The reality is that most men are no more knowledgeable about cars than women. The great era of the "muscle car" has passed, and the era of the metro-sexual male has actually coincided with the entrance of the androgynous female thanks to rabid feminism. This had led to a general lack of knowledge among both sexes when confronted with the great mystery of the mechanical workings and functional design of the average car or truck.
So typically, when a "male" steps in to "resolve" problems with an insurance company or a shop, he does so from a perspective of such total ignorance he does nothing other than reveal himself to be a complete fool. And his arguments are not based on knowledge of the subject matter at hand, but rather the common mythology that can be disproved through a simple vehicle diagram, record of part prices, the visual of broken parts, and calm conversation.
In other words...male or female, don't be a bully. The people on the other end of the phone are trying to help you and quoting mythology doesn't further your position and certainly doesn't do anything other than damage your dignity.
3. Insurance companies are out to screw everybody.
If I had even a penny for every time I heard that quote, I would have quit my job after the first year. Insurance companies don't care about you. They are a business. Therefore, they are out to screw only themselves. In capitalism, it's the ONLY way to survive. Look out for your own interests, but in the process, be sure to benefit others. The entire foundation of insurance is to make money by paying it out to other people, much like the credit card business. And both industries take HUGE losses every year, along with great profits. That's why people don't purchase a lot of stock in either...a bad climate or economic year is literally financial destruction. But were it not for such destruction, they would not be able to exist.
Let me give you the real scoop, from the inside: Insurance companies hire REAL PEOPLE. They are people like you and me, and those people are assigned to a particular job. If that person happens to be an agent, that agent's job is to sell you a policy in accordance with what you need. It is NOT that agent's job to explain the letter of the policy. It is YOUR job to READ your policy. Claims Adjusters are hired to fulfill various expectations, which often differ from company to company, or from various specialties. In my case, I was a "generalist" before I specialized. And the generalists in my company spoke with all parties of an accident, all witnesses, obtained police reports, inspected cars (as in writing estimates), determined liability, coordinated with shops and other insurance companies, wrote contentions if the claim went to arbitration, and put out "fires" that arose from day to day. Investigators do the same thing, but at their specialized level. There were also specialized adjusters who handed specifically mechanical issues at shops but had no part in liability determination.
Those people work REALLY HARD, they do their BEST in an industry that idolizes agents and ignores adjusters in their commercials, and in spite of being snubbed, they work hard to be sure their customers get what they need in as timely a manner as possible. And sometimes it isn't possible to get to everyone in a day, no matter WHAT the company advertises.
It's always the claims adjusters who are thrown under the bus when something goes wrong. And often, the problem is the fault of the agent or the shop. The adjuster, the average person's contact with an insurance company, in addition to everything else, is also a mediator, because the adjuster knows better than to throw the agent or the shop under the bus. Pitting people against each other actually makes everything more difficult for EVERYONE.
Besides...the adjuster is a person JUST LIKE YOU. He or she knows what it's like to have an accident, and they know that in our over indulgent society, timeliness and "need" are prized. Time is money.
That adjuster also knows that if they provide bad service to you, said adjuster is rated in numbers and "productivity" according to crazy standards. So to fail to meet YOUR expectations as a customer means that the adjuster is going to take a serious hit both in workload and in potentially losing his or her job. Ironically, the people who are the most helpful often are the first to burn out and lose their jobs...because they'd prefer to make their customer happy and serve all their needs rather than meet numbers established by financial analysts who have never done the job.
So...the next time you have a claim, imagine that your son or daughter is the person on the other end of the line. Yes, they have to follow the policy, no they are not out to "get" you, and if you work with them, they will bend over backwards to help you even if it takes extra time and lands their butt in sling with their boss.
4. Shops are out to screw everybody.
Um....no. Shops are out to make money, and screwing everybody is detrimental to ongoing income. They are out to build customer loyalty, and in my experience, they were more than happy to help me, as an adjuster, know what I was looking at. It was a mutual agreement...if I know what you're talking about, I can agree or disagree intelligently and we can have a discussion about what would be proper. Sometimes there's more than one way to go about things. Other times the right thing to do is concrete.
Oh, and if the manufacturer recommends something, it has to be done. That's a reality, especially when a warranty is on the line.
Seriously, there are only a few times when shops didn't listen to me, as a customer, and it was ALWAYS when I was throwing money at them. That's for a different post.
5. Men have no respect for the capacity of women to understand mechanical things.
Complete idiocy. I have to say that when I went to a shop and was honest in that I needed assistance in identifying mechanical parts, they were ALWAYS willing to help. Certainly, they got paid for their time, because my own management recognized that both for negotiation and part identification purposes, the shop deserves to be paid for their time. And no, I'm not a blonde. I'm not even attractive. But the shops were willing to help out professionally because they saw that I was sincere in trying to learn, and had enough knowledge so as to be able to speak somewhat intelligently, as well as recognize their own challenges in their business. It was also my job to work with the customer, without throwing the shop under the bus. They always appreciated that.
Perhaps in the past and maybe in some areas, it is customary to pass blame when something is going wrong, but it's much better, professionally, to own up to any errors and rather than focus on them, to discuss what all parties are doing to WORK TOGETHER to resolve the problem.
The automotive industry is male-dominated, no doubt. But I found most of the men I met on the job to be courteous, friendly, most were knowledgeable, most appreciated that a woman was present and was professional (they have no time for airheads).
Of the times that I was "screwed over" on the job, it had more to do with the company and the interests of the shop than it did with my female identity. That's another story, too, one that involves a family member voiding the warranty on a brand new car belonging to his neice so that he could get a chance to mess with the insurance company. (long story, but one that I need to write for you all.)
Seriously...don't follow this myth. Of course, if you choose to be ignorant, you will be taken advantage of. If you have some basic knowledge, even of your car's manual and recommended service provided by the manufacturer, you will overcome a great deal.
6. If my car has a warranty, I have to get it fixed at the dealership.
Completely, patently untrue. You very rarely HAVE to go to the Dealer for anything. If a given shop is equipped for the damage or repair in question, they can order the parts and do the work. There is a huge myth out there bullying people into thinking that they have to go the dealer in order to have access to manufacturer parts. Um....no. ANY shop can order ANY part. In fact, YOU can order manufacturer parts from home and fix your car yourself.
The warranty issues come in only via certification; a shop doing the work has to be certifiable via the warranty company. So if you know a great mechanical shop that is not a dealer, they can often check to see if the mechanical repair is via warranty, and file a warranty claim on your behalf. They certify the work as if the dealer did it.
Read my lips: the Dealership DOES NOT have the corner on the market in repairs.
In fact, the dealer usually costs you MORE to do the work.
This leads to another topic...
7. What about Aftermarket parts? Used Parts? Remanufactured Parts?
There are a few kinds of parts that can be used on your car, and it is regulated by state law.
In Minnesota, if it involves an insurance claim, if your car is less than 3 years old OR has 16,000 miles or less, then new OEM (Manufacturer) parts are the only things that can be used. You, as an owner, can request the use of other parts, but in the event of a claim, the insurance company can ONLY use those specific parts.
If the car has MORE than 16,000 miles and is older than 3 years, then used (the term LKQ) parts can also be utilized. These are parts from the same year vehicle or newer, and they can be used in an insurance claim without your permission, although they have to provide this information to you in the estimate.
Or, you can choose Aftermarket parts. Here's a dirty little industry secret that the Manufacturer doesn't want you to know:
Many of the parts sold as New/OEM with the manufacturer stamp on it are actually made to spec by other companies. So the manufacturer gets to mark it up with their brand name, even though Company X actually made them. That same company, Company X can sell that very same part, the very same specs, for the very same vehicle, at a greatly reduced cost because, say "FORD" or "CHEVY" or "BMW" isn't stamped on it. We call this an "Aftermarket" part even though it's the EXACT same part the dealer sells you with a marked up label!
Now, there are also aftermarket parts that involve cosmetics, air intakes, ground effects, rims, stereo systems, etc. that are NOT related to the dealer. So when discussing aftermarket parts, just be aware that this encompasses a lot, and is not necessarily the myth-driven idea of a "defective low-quality part".
In fact, if given the choice between used and aftermarket, I would choose aftermarket. Because, say, an aftermarket headlight is going to cover both the shop warranty and the warranty from whoever made the part. A used part carries only the shop warranty and, as indicated...it's used.
People...don't be so afraid of "aftermarket." Even if you have a factory warranty on your car. It won't void it unless the aftermarket part involves weird wiring or other issues. READ YOUR POLICIES!
This is getting long and I have SO MUCH more to say...so let's just say that there is more coming with regard to these topics.
Friends
Love or hate "Friends" you have to admit that every so often they have good lines.
LOL!
I don't watch the old reruns, but I used to be a huge fan, and happened to see just this portion of dialogue, had to share.
Ross: Like it or not, you're going to have to deal with the fact that I'm not going to stop planning my future with you. Because we're going to end up together and I love you.
Rachel: Well, I love you too.
Ross: And that's the first time we said that so I'm going to kiss you!
Rachel: Well, you'd better!
LOL!
I don't watch the old reruns, but I used to be a huge fan, and happened to see just this portion of dialogue, had to share.
Thursday, January 03, 2008
The Good, the Bad, and the Downright Ugly
I'm going to give the good news first:
* On the car: I got it back yesterday, the problem was the ignition switch, covered by warranty. When they took it on a test drive, they heard a rattle, and discovered that the bushings for the rear lower control arms were bad. Replaced them - warranty. Total bill, including rental, nearly $600.00. I paid: Not a cent. Because it was all warranty. (I think my extended warranty has now paid for itself.)
* On school: A very generous donor has given $1,000 to the students in the program with financial need/on loans, etc. So now all I owe is about $844.00 for the semester. Yay! (Um...I'm getting a loan for that amount, but it's better than $1,844!)
Now the Bad:
I hate January 3. Thirteen years ago today, my Dad passed away. So this particular date in history is already a difficult one for me. Please keep him in your prayers. I may write more later on this.
And the downright Ugly:
This afternoon, my DRE and I went out to grab lunch. Ironically, en route to find a restaurant, we were discussing insurance and policies and deductibles.
After we picked up our food, we went back to my car, I carefully backed up and proceeded very slowly towards the lot exit. I was literally creeping along because of all the ice and snow in the lot, and the fact it's a parking lot including cars and pedstrians. My years of insurance have taught me great caution in lots.
But those years of experience couldn't save me. There was sudden movement as I sidled along; a parked car became very suddenly active and SHOT backward, straight into me. There was nothing I could do...I was RIGHT THERE. There was no "forward" impact in the collision as I came to a stop immediately, and watched in amazement as the other car continued backing...right along the front of my car. The other car was going so quickly that he literally could not stop upon impact.
My first reaction (other than to hit the brake) was to shout out something I shouldn't have said, and immediately told my boss sitting next to me that I hadn't said that word.
Everyone was fine. I looked to be sure no one was immediately coming, got out and went around to check the damage. The other guy had parked his car and was walking towards me, apologizing, maybe introducing himself. I greeted him briefly, noting his first name and asked him if he had his insurance card? He did...it was in hand. I told him I'd get mine out, but was focusing on my car for the moment. The impact was to the right front bumper, scraping and "folding" the bumper in places. It's cracked and has a hole punched in it. The grill piece is also "folded". It appeared that the headlinght was not damaged.
We exchanged information cordially, and he apparently recently started a job as a claims adjuster. I told him I'd quit my job as a claims adjuster.
Parking lot accidents are the worst, liability-wise. While this guy will be majority at fault, I know that the liability decision will hold me a percentage at fault...just because it was a parking lot.
Believe me - I used to do this. Although even in lots, I occasionally made a decision that someone was 100%. And this would have been one of those cases. But I also know that common sense is not that common and that this guy's story may be drastically different than mine when he speaks to his company. I had a passenger who will verify my story, however, as a passenger she can't be considered to be an impartial witness.
I don't need this. Not the expense, not the time taken to deal with this stuff. None of it. And depending upon the percentage of my liability, I have to wonder how this is going to affect my rates. I WAS "accident free" and enjoyed a discount. Will that continue?
And I just GOT my car out of the shop!
I will say this...thank God this didn't happen in the rental car.
Although now I'll be in another rental while my car gets repaired.
* sigh *
I want to go home and go to sleep, pull the covers over my head until today is over.
UPDATE: I stopped to get an estimate tonight, and it's the shop I plan to use. I worked with them professionally in the past, and while they aren't my first choice, they ARE the most convenient and they do good work. Whenever I had to go there as an adjuster they bent over backwards and if I didn't know something, they didn't make me feel like an idiot. Well, there's no estimate. He took a look at the damaged area and agrees it needs a teardown. At this point, we're looking at Monday for a drop off, if the Ins. Company has agreed on liability. The other guy involved has the same company, which in some ways actually simplifies things, as it won't go to formal arbitration. I'm only worried about the ultimate liability decision.
And while the cost to repair will likely exceed what I owe for school, I am repairing my car; because while the temptation is great to take the money and run, ultimately I'd be taking a larger loss on trade in value. And as I'm still paying for my car, well...I don't want to drive a piece of junk. Small nicks are one thing. This is another.
Remind me to do a post about the automotive industry from a woman's perspective, from the "inside". Incorporating important insurance information.
* On the car: I got it back yesterday, the problem was the ignition switch, covered by warranty. When they took it on a test drive, they heard a rattle, and discovered that the bushings for the rear lower control arms were bad. Replaced them - warranty. Total bill, including rental, nearly $600.00. I paid: Not a cent. Because it was all warranty. (I think my extended warranty has now paid for itself.)
* On school: A very generous donor has given $1,000 to the students in the program with financial need/on loans, etc. So now all I owe is about $844.00 for the semester. Yay! (Um...I'm getting a loan for that amount, but it's better than $1,844!)
Now the Bad:
I hate January 3. Thirteen years ago today, my Dad passed away. So this particular date in history is already a difficult one for me. Please keep him in your prayers. I may write more later on this.
And the downright Ugly:
This afternoon, my DRE and I went out to grab lunch. Ironically, en route to find a restaurant, we were discussing insurance and policies and deductibles.
After we picked up our food, we went back to my car, I carefully backed up and proceeded very slowly towards the lot exit. I was literally creeping along because of all the ice and snow in the lot, and the fact it's a parking lot including cars and pedstrians. My years of insurance have taught me great caution in lots.
But those years of experience couldn't save me. There was sudden movement as I sidled along; a parked car became very suddenly active and SHOT backward, straight into me. There was nothing I could do...I was RIGHT THERE. There was no "forward" impact in the collision as I came to a stop immediately, and watched in amazement as the other car continued backing...right along the front of my car. The other car was going so quickly that he literally could not stop upon impact.
My first reaction (other than to hit the brake) was to shout out something I shouldn't have said, and immediately told my boss sitting next to me that I hadn't said that word.
Everyone was fine. I looked to be sure no one was immediately coming, got out and went around to check the damage. The other guy had parked his car and was walking towards me, apologizing, maybe introducing himself. I greeted him briefly, noting his first name and asked him if he had his insurance card? He did...it was in hand. I told him I'd get mine out, but was focusing on my car for the moment. The impact was to the right front bumper, scraping and "folding" the bumper in places. It's cracked and has a hole punched in it. The grill piece is also "folded". It appeared that the headlinght was not damaged.
We exchanged information cordially, and he apparently recently started a job as a claims adjuster. I told him I'd quit my job as a claims adjuster.
Parking lot accidents are the worst, liability-wise. While this guy will be majority at fault, I know that the liability decision will hold me a percentage at fault...just because it was a parking lot.
Believe me - I used to do this. Although even in lots, I occasionally made a decision that someone was 100%. And this would have been one of those cases. But I also know that common sense is not that common and that this guy's story may be drastically different than mine when he speaks to his company. I had a passenger who will verify my story, however, as a passenger she can't be considered to be an impartial witness.
I don't need this. Not the expense, not the time taken to deal with this stuff. None of it. And depending upon the percentage of my liability, I have to wonder how this is going to affect my rates. I WAS "accident free" and enjoyed a discount. Will that continue?
And I just GOT my car out of the shop!
I will say this...thank God this didn't happen in the rental car.
Although now I'll be in another rental while my car gets repaired.
* sigh *
I want to go home and go to sleep, pull the covers over my head until today is over.
UPDATE: I stopped to get an estimate tonight, and it's the shop I plan to use. I worked with them professionally in the past, and while they aren't my first choice, they ARE the most convenient and they do good work. Whenever I had to go there as an adjuster they bent over backwards and if I didn't know something, they didn't make me feel like an idiot. Well, there's no estimate. He took a look at the damaged area and agrees it needs a teardown. At this point, we're looking at Monday for a drop off, if the Ins. Company has agreed on liability. The other guy involved has the same company, which in some ways actually simplifies things, as it won't go to formal arbitration. I'm only worried about the ultimate liability decision.
And while the cost to repair will likely exceed what I owe for school, I am repairing my car; because while the temptation is great to take the money and run, ultimately I'd be taking a larger loss on trade in value. And as I'm still paying for my car, well...I don't want to drive a piece of junk. Small nicks are one thing. This is another.
Remind me to do a post about the automotive industry from a woman's perspective, from the "inside". Incorporating important insurance information.
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
Blessings!
Fr. V., my "cyber-bro" tagged me with a meme this morning, and the concept is a little different, because it's not about "me". What a great way to start the year!
OK, so here are the people I want to bless:
Sara - Because she is so inspirational on so many levels, because she's the kind of person I would love to have as a sister and am happy to call friend (even though we've never actually met), and she made me her new wee one's "pseudo-godmother". So that's a gift of having a wee soul to pray for. Amazingly, we have so much in common, I really do wish that she wasn't 1/3 of the width of the United States away. (She DOES hail from the state of Ohio, though, just like Fr. V. Hmm...maybe I'm supposed to be living in Ohio and not Minnesota.) Oh, right, this is about HER, not ME...so, dear Sara, God bless you!
Cathy ~ This dear friend, whom I HAVE met in person several times is one of the reasons I have continued my blog. She contacted me via email one day and revealed that the information I was providing on my blog was helpful to her in her conversion, and encouraged me to continue. She had no way of knowing that I was actually wondering at the time if blogging was really making a difference for anyone. Because she has blessed me first with her encouragement, and then her friendship, I am proud to return this more "formal" blessing. Here's to you, dear Cathy!
Terry ~ Because he is always a surprise. His sense of humor doesn't end, and at the same time, he's also not afraid to "call it as he sees it" especially if the topic is a hot-button issue. He always shares the writings of the Saints and shares in greater depth wonderful explanations of what could, for us mere mortals, be very difficult to understand. For some reason, though, he always stands us up when we go out to eat at Don Pablo's.
My prayer for all of you is stolen from Father V.: That you will know better the worth and dignity with which your Creator cherishes you and that He send His blessings upon you in this New Year so that you will be constantly surprised by His love.
Now, here is your mission should you decide to accept it:
a) Bless 3 blog buddies each
b) Include the ‘God Bless you’ image in their post
c) Explain briefly why they are blessing the people they are blessing
d) pray/include in the post the prayer for the recipients of the blessing.
e)The recipient/sender of a blessing should type in the com box of Deb’s original post that a blessing has been sent to them so we can keep track of how many blessings are being given. For easy reference a link to her post will make it into Deb’s sidebar.
The idea… it’s a game of tag with a difference, rather than looking inwardly, we look outside ourselves and bless, praise and pray for one blog friend. By participating in this endeavour we not only make the recipient of the blessing feel valued and appreciated, but we are having some fun too. We’re going to see how far the bloggin’ blessings can travel around the world and how many people can be blessed! Recipients of a bloggin’ blessing may upload the above image to their sidebar if they choose to. If you recieve a bloggin’ blessin’ please leave a comment on this thread here so that we can rejoice in just how many blessings have been sent around the world!
OK, so here are the people I want to bless:
Sara - Because she is so inspirational on so many levels, because she's the kind of person I would love to have as a sister and am happy to call friend (even though we've never actually met), and she made me her new wee one's "pseudo-godmother". So that's a gift of having a wee soul to pray for. Amazingly, we have so much in common, I really do wish that she wasn't 1/3 of the width of the United States away. (She DOES hail from the state of Ohio, though, just like Fr. V. Hmm...maybe I'm supposed to be living in Ohio and not Minnesota.) Oh, right, this is about HER, not ME...so, dear Sara, God bless you!
Cathy ~ This dear friend, whom I HAVE met in person several times is one of the reasons I have continued my blog. She contacted me via email one day and revealed that the information I was providing on my blog was helpful to her in her conversion, and encouraged me to continue. She had no way of knowing that I was actually wondering at the time if blogging was really making a difference for anyone. Because she has blessed me first with her encouragement, and then her friendship, I am proud to return this more "formal" blessing. Here's to you, dear Cathy!
Terry ~ Because he is always a surprise. His sense of humor doesn't end, and at the same time, he's also not afraid to "call it as he sees it" especially if the topic is a hot-button issue. He always shares the writings of the Saints and shares in greater depth wonderful explanations of what could, for us mere mortals, be very difficult to understand. For some reason, though, he always stands us up when we go out to eat at Don Pablo's.
My prayer for all of you is stolen from Father V.: That you will know better the worth and dignity with which your Creator cherishes you and that He send His blessings upon you in this New Year so that you will be constantly surprised by His love.
Now, here is your mission should you decide to accept it:
a) Bless 3 blog buddies each
b) Include the ‘God Bless you’ image in their post
c) Explain briefly why they are blessing the people they are blessing
d) pray/include in the post the prayer for the recipients of the blessing.
e)The recipient/sender of a blessing should type in the com box of Deb’s original post that a blessing has been sent to them so we can keep track of how many blessings are being given. For easy reference a link to her post will make it into Deb’s sidebar.
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